Comments on: Old Bats Feel Too Ugly To Get It On http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/ Thu, 04 Dec 2008 03:37:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Anne http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5581 Anne Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5581 The iron cage of beauty is too much for some people. The iron cage of beauty is too much for some people.

]]> By: David http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5582 David Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5582 Several years ago I met a woman who was, and looked, significantly older than me--well over 50, and thin as a rail. Her eyes were the essence of sexuality and the perfect compliment to her long blond hair. About a month ago a friend was in a local hospital recovering from a traffic accident. I asked if there were any cute nurses and he said that there was one, but that she was "too old." Too old? I nearly gave him a dope slap when he said she was 35. Several years ago I met a woman who was, and looked, significantly older than me–well over 50, and thin as a rail. Her eyes were the essence of sexuality and the perfect compliment to her long blond hair.

About a month ago a friend was in a local hospital recovering from a traffic accident. I asked if there were any cute nurses and he said that there was one, but that she was “too old.” Too old? I nearly gave him a dope slap when he said she was 35.

]]> By: anonymous http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5583 anonymous Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5583 It's a funny thing, but I actually feel much sexier and more beautiful since I became invisible (in other words, since I became too "old" and "fat" to be lusted after by the hoi polloi). I like my body much better now that no one feels a need to leer at it or make comments, both of which used to horribly embarrass me. Didn't matter what I wore, either. It’s a funny thing, but I actually feel much sexier and more beautiful since I became invisible (in other words, since I became too “old” and “fat” to be lusted after by the hoi polloi).

I like my body much better now that no one feels a need to leer at it or make comments, both of which used to horribly embarrass me. Didn’t matter what I wore, either.

]]> By: yankee transplant http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5584 yankee transplant Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5584 Oh god, what a brilliant study (choke, choke) But more importantly, I'm sorry you feel like shit, Twisty. We're out here rootin' for ya'! Oh god, what a brilliant study (choke, choke)
But more importantly, I’m sorry you feel like shit, Twisty. We’re out here rootin’ for ya’!

]]> By: martha http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5585 martha Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5585 While I have male friends, I have to say that very few experiences can be as powerfully anaphrodisiac for a middle-aged woman as overhearing the conversations of unknown males of almost any age, in which they (at a cafe table six inches from my cafe table, <i>par example</i>) evaluate the attractiveness of women they know. I'm pretty sure I'll never fuck a man again. And it's not that I feel ugly. I feel that they are assholes. While I have male friends, I have to say that very few experiences can be as powerfully anaphrodisiac for a middle-aged woman as overhearing the conversations of unknown males of almost any age, in which they (at a cafe table six inches from my cafe table, par example) evaluate the attractiveness of women they know. I’m pretty sure I’ll never fuck a man again. And it’s not that I feel ugly. I feel that they are assholes.

]]> By: sylvanite http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5586 sylvanite Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5586 It never ceases to amaze me how neurotic some women are about their bodies. I've often noticed women obsessing about "flaws" that I've never even been concerned about personally (i.e. "My arms look fat in this dress." How many people really notice this woman's perfectly normal-looking upper arms, anyway, much less find them unattractive? I'm guessing none, but I digress). I guess I still manage to be amazed at, and appalled by, how thoroughly women internalize the messages they get that they are nothing but a piece of meat, and they'd better not have any physical "flaws" because then no man will ever want them, and they will be worthless. It never ceases to amaze me how neurotic some women are about their bodies. I’ve often noticed women obsessing about “flaws” that I’ve never even been concerned about personally (i.e. “My arms look fat in this dress.” How many people really notice this woman’s perfectly normal-looking upper arms, anyway, much less find them unattractive? I’m guessing none, but I digress). I guess I still manage to be amazed at, and appalled by, how thoroughly women internalize the messages they get that they are nothing but a piece of meat, and they’d better not have any physical “flaws” because then no man will ever want them, and they will be worthless.

]]> By: sylvanite http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5587 sylvanite Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5587 And Martha comes in with examples of the meat-market evaluation. Yeesh. Do these men look into the women's mouths to evaluate their age and health? Mooooo! Or maybe baaaaa! I gues this does answer the question of how some women manage to get totally neurotic about their looks. And Martha comes in with examples of the meat-market evaluation. Yeesh. Do these men look into the women’s mouths to evaluate their age and health? Mooooo! Or maybe baaaaa! I gues this does answer the question of how some women manage to get totally neurotic about their looks.

]]> By: martha http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5588 martha Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5588 Teeth, whiteness of, seems to be a big obsession with everybody lately. But the conversations that really did me in were the ones (and I heard three uncannily similar versions before I stopped going to the b&d deli for breakfast on saturdays), where a fiftyish man was explaining at great length and with poorly concealed satisfaction to a [ick]supportive woman friend [/ick] that the woman he was actually <i>dating</i> was (a) "too needy," (b) "wanted too much from the relationship," (c) "would like it to be more, but he didn't think he wanted it to be more." Teeth, whiteness of, seems to be a big obsession with everybody lately. But the conversations that really did me in were the ones (and I heard three uncannily similar versions before I stopped going to the b&d deli for breakfast on saturdays), where a fiftyish man was explaining at great length and with poorly concealed satisfaction to a [ick]supportive woman friend [/ick] that the woman he was actually dating was (a) “too needy,” (b) “wanted too much from the relationship,” (c) “would like it to be more, but he didn’t think he wanted it to be more.”

]]> By: Anthony Staines http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5589 Anthony Staines Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5589 Hi, Two things - first keep well, and look after yourself first and foremost. I have some idea how you feel having had cancer five years ago. Second, keep up the writing. You're informative, thought-provoking, clever, witty, literate, and entertaining. America needs you! The rest of us need you too. Thanks. Hi,
Two things - first keep well, and look after yourself first and foremost. I have some idea how you feel having had cancer five years ago.
Second, keep up the writing. You’re informative, thought-provoking, clever, witty, literate, and entertaining. America needs you! The rest of us need you too.
Thanks.

]]> By: Hattie http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5590 Hattie Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2005/11/10/old-bats-feel-too-ugly-to-get-it-on/#comment-5590 Well, let's go ahead and allow men decide how worthwhile we are. Sheez. Well, let’s go ahead and allow men decide how worthwhile we are. Sheez.

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