YES!!

YES!!!

You are so right, I’d like to take this opportunity to let you know how much I idolize you for being so right and telling it like it is.

I sometimes pull out an old traditional folk saying that I made up myself a few years back, to the effect that If the whole world looks like shit, chances are you have your head up your ass. But it isn’t the whole world, is it, what you’re talking about. The patriarchy just does its damnedest to convince us that it is, that it’s just natural, the Way Things Are. (Most of “evolutionaly psychology,” e.g.)

I’m thinking of carrying a pair of the Nose-Colored Glasses of Truth around more of the time, well, to be honest I’ve been bitching to all and sundry and my nearest and dearest by turns for some decades now about those individual acts that, repeated and left un-bitched-about, paint the scenery with shit. One gets hoarse sometimes. But the Glasses at least help keep one from stepping in more of the shit and getting it all over oneself and eventually joining all the rest of the indistinguishably shit-covered scenery.

Sure I’m emotional when I blog. Usually because I’m mad as hell.

Oh, well, it was something about how Majikthise and Hilzoy of Obsidian Wings would probably be surprised to learn that their lack of a penis makes them inferior political bloggers. Then I went on about how it requires effort to be a good thinker, and that men are not actually unemotional. But it’s all gone, and I’d better git while the gittin’s good, lest Typepad lose this post, too.

A similar point was made by Debra Dickerson in her witty little book “The End Of Blackness”. It seems Debra is royally sick of being treated like she’s black. Reading her I thought many times of you — she’s making some of the same points, and with wit, style and needle-like insight that keeps the pages turning. If you took the word black and substituted female you would find much to agree with there.

I hate to bring up old stuff, but it’s been bugging me — why didn’t they do a study to see how old men feel about their bodies, and whether feeling less sexy goes hand in hand with looking less sexy for men, too? The older I get, the flabbier the old tissues become, and the less I want sex. I don’t understand why it’s an issue to be studied only from the perspective of whether the sex class is still on the job for old coot gratification as they age…

If you didn’t, men would never win the “best vocalist” prize.

Being rather mentally and spiritually androgynous myself, I despise both gender polarity AND it’s assignment to everyone on a two-bin basis. I’ve never lived according to women do x men do y and I’m not raising my boys like that either because it just doesn’t fit.

Emotional people view things through an emotional lens, unemotional/rational people view things through a logic lens. When emotional males are prevented from doing what would be natural and normal to them they end up a big huge fucking mess. Unemotional females (like my late grandmother, who was in all honesty asperger’s), end up running idiot emotional female simulations to fit in, or wind up as outcasts. Someone who uses both modes is not a complete person, but a suspect person.

We would have a much better world if we were permitted the expression and self-understanding and balance that is our personality and temperment, because many would be permitted a more complete picture of the world.