I think it’s pretty clear that (a) I’m joking and (b) I’m not denying the existence of an actual pathology of sexual dysfunction. I merely suggest that a lack of interest in fucking should not automatically be considered a disease, when a perfectly natural disgust is an equally plausible explanation.

As to the men who can’t get enough, I could introduce you to an ex of mine who wanted sex every day, twice in a row, despite certain biological changes which occur in males when they are no longer teenagers. You’d be disappointed, though.

Of course dudes can’t actually get their hands dirty with nonsense like getting their partner excited, even if it just means buying a pill, silly me.

It’d be nice if things like assertiveness training (“No, I don’t have a headache; I just don’t want to fuck you”) were as common as pills in this society. Otoh: *if* the new pills work, hey, all they do is increase desire. It doesn’t say what they increase desire *for.* Wouldn’t it be ironic if it led some women to realize that, y’know, actually those vague happy feelings they get around their best friend or the mail carrier were in fact Big Lusty Feelings, and the reason their marriage can’t be saved is because they were barking up the wrong tree all along?

However, lack of desire is often labeled as dysfunction even though it may not be dysfunctional at all.

If, say, you were content with your level of sexual desire, but your partner wasn’t, that is NOT sexual dysfunction.

Or, say, your libido was decreased because you were too tired after working and then doing the lion’s share of the housework too — that is not sexual dysfunction either.

I’m sure others can come up with more instances of this, but throwing medication at things like this is like giving prozac for normal grief the day after a loved one dies; it’s ineffective and unnecessary.