Also, this post is great, although it probably gets repetitive to hear that over and over again. Or maybe not!

I had sex with 16 year olds when I was 16, it still turns me on to think about, does that mean 16 year olds are not safe around me.

I fantasize about bashing my car into people who cut me off, or slashing thier tires, does that mean my license should be taken away and someone needs to take all the knives out of my silver ware drawer?

of course not.

Acting out a fantasy is like anything else, use your judgement and you will be fine.

However, morgan got to it first – it means the exact same thing that it means for men who read hot girl-on-girl stories. It means they would drool in happy delight over their male partners having sex with another man in front of them.

Now if you say you wouldn’t actually like to see that, you just mastubate and orgasm at the thought of it, then your sexuality has been co-opted and you get off to thoughts of things you’d never in a million years want to happen – proof the Porntriarchy has invaded your head like a virus.

If you WOULD like to see that, you need to deconstruct it and ask what kind of effect it must have on your partner, that he knows he’s not what you really want – you really want someone who will have sex with other men for you.

And you didn’t talk about how women are portrayed in slash. And it is a problem, because slash isn’t just porn, it is a window into the mind of the people writing it the same as porn is for men with their steriotypical lesbians. It exposes their biases in rather unflattering ways.

It’s something she can do: watch two men have sex. Not even necessarily in an actively-participating-as-a-voyeur way, but unless you’re picturing yourself as one of the men (which most slashers would find ludicrous and totally missing the point) that’s what you’re fantasising about.

Was this intended as a question?
Because men write themselves out of porn they create for themselves.

Sometimes I wonder if it’s something in our wiring to fantasize about .

Het women create unrealistic male-male porn for themselves and for female readership/viewership.
Het men create unrealistic female-female porn for themselves and for male readership/viewership.

Right now societally they exist at opposite ends of the scale (one a major commercial industry and the other mostly underground work done by individuals), but both exist and both fulfill similar needs for the consumers.

There’s a research study in there somewhere, and I’d love to read it. :)