Comments on: Human Rights Post # 176 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 11:41:36 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: EventualFutureMother http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/#comment-124002 EventualFutureMother Mon, 28 Jul 2008 15:52:35 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=470#comment-124002 Thanks for this! My fiance and I are both planning on utilizing the "permanent solution" after we have two kids (eventually), so it's nice to know what we can expect. He says if I'm carrying two kids, the least he can do is get the surgery too. My mom was supposed to be unable to have kids after my oldest younger brother because of scared tubes. The doctor refused to tie them because it was "such a small chance" and they might want another one. My father sure did, as my youngest brother attests to, and he wasn't happy when she finally found a GYN who agreed to do the surgery the day my brother was born. The fact that they have no love life now shows me how much my father really loved my mom. So glad that addage about choosing a man who's just like your father is not true! Thanks for this!

My fiance and I are both planning on utilizing the “permanent solution” after we have two kids (eventually), so it’s nice to know what we can expect. He says if I’m carrying two kids, the least he can do is get the surgery too.

My mom was supposed to be unable to have kids after my oldest younger brother because of scared tubes. The doctor refused to tie them because it was “such a small chance” and they might want another one. My father sure did, as my youngest brother attests to, and he wasn’t happy when she finally found a GYN who agreed to do the surgery the day my brother was born. The fact that they have no love life now shows me how much my father really loved my mom. So glad that addage about choosing a man who’s just like your father is not true!

]]> By: Astacia http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/#comment-89026 Astacia Tue, 25 Sep 2007 00:05:22 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=470#comment-89026 Brava! I had a tubal after my second daughter was born, and my OB/GYN was wonderful about it. He never made me feel like I was doing anything wrong. But 2 years later, after I had my son, another doctor tried to talk me out of having them tied again. "You do understand that this will make you sterile and that you'll never be able to get pregnant again, right?" Yeah, I've had this song and dance before, just give me the surgery. Brava!

I had a tubal after my second daughter was born, and my OB/GYN was wonderful about it. He never made me feel like I was doing anything wrong.

But 2 years later, after I had my son, another doctor tried to talk me out of having them tied again. “You do understand that this will make you sterile and that you’ll never be able to get pregnant again, right?”

Yeah, I’ve had this song and dance before, just give me the surgery.

]]> By: alyssa http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/#comment-83628 alyssa Fri, 03 Aug 2007 07:13:22 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=470#comment-83628 "If men got pregnant, abortion would be considered hunting." so funny, and so true! god knows (oh, he does) that if men were the ones carrying the kid around for 9 months, they'd be bragging about how big their stomach was (for one), and if they wanted an abortion, it'd be free, fast, and there'd be constant government funding to find new ways of stalking their prey faster and more efficiently. oh baby. “If men got pregnant, abortion would be considered hunting.”

so funny, and so true!

god knows (oh, he does) that if men were the ones carrying the kid around for 9 months, they’d be bragging about how big their stomach was (for one), and if they wanted an abortion, it’d be free, fast, and there’d be constant government funding to find new ways of stalking their prey faster and more efficiently.

oh baby.

]]> By: Christine http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/#comment-12567 Christine Thu, 23 Feb 2006 14:36:21 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=470#comment-12567 I got my tubes tied at the age of 27, through Planned Parenthood in California. They asked if I was sure, listened to my reasons, and said "okay." The only person who went on to the "what if you get divorced then marry again and your new husband wants children?" (the fact that my husband doesn't want kids either was important, apparently) was the (male) doctor right before the surgery. Never been more glad to have had the op done. I got my tubes tied at the age of 27, through Planned Parenthood in California. They asked if I was sure, listened to my reasons, and said “okay.” The only person who went on to the “what if you get divorced then marry again and your new husband wants children?” (the fact that my husband doesn’t want kids either was important, apparently) was the (male) doctor right before the surgery.

Never been more glad to have had the op done.

]]> By: culturekitchen http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/#comment-11440 culturekitchen Tue, 14 Feb 2006 13:41:08 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=470#comment-11440 <strong>Scent of a Woman's Ink II</strong> (Photo by Mark Beazley, BigToePhotography This week, more writing from women across the Internet. I am still selecting material that does not have a common theme, other than that I liked it and it was written by a woman. But, in coming weeks, I will be p Scent of a Woman’s Ink II

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This week, more writing from women across the Internet. I am still selecting material that does not have a common theme, other than that I liked it and it was written by a woman. But, in coming weeks, I will be p

]]> By: manxome http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/#comment-11331 manxome Sun, 12 Feb 2006 18:40:05 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=470#comment-11331 Wordlackey's comment reminds me of the day when I had to accompany my then 40 year-old husband to the doctor so I could sign a release saying it was okey dokey with me that he was electing to get a procedure done to his person. It's not like he was in a coma and couldn't make such life-altering decisions himself, of course. We thought the whole thing was nuts. Ballsy, even! Wordlackey’s comment reminds me of the day when I had to accompany my then 40 year-old husband to the doctor so I could sign a release saying it was okey dokey with me that he was electing to get a procedure done to his person. It’s not like he was in a coma and couldn’t make such life-altering decisions himself, of course.

We thought the whole thing was nuts. Ballsy, even!

]]> By: westlin http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/#comment-11314 westlin Sun, 12 Feb 2006 14:42:15 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=470#comment-11314 boo hiss. I would rather take care of kids already on the planet than add more of my own. IF I had a stable home life and IF I could afford to (ie, not now). But I am diabetic and one GP says so be really careful and not get pregnant unless I am in really good control of my blood sugar (I started insulin about three months ago), and the gyn says that the only birth control I can use is condoms (apparantly if your blood sugar is wonky pills and the like upset the whole thing). And I just don't trust condoms. And they argue against any other forms because what 25 year old doesn't want a little pink poop-machine? boo hiss. I would rather take care of kids already on the planet than add more of my own. IF I had a stable home life and IF I could afford to (ie, not now). But I am diabetic and one GP says so be really careful and not get pregnant unless I am in really good control of my blood sugar (I started insulin about three months ago), and the gyn says that the only birth control I can use is condoms (apparantly if your blood sugar is wonky pills and the like upset the whole thing). And I just don’t trust condoms. And they argue against any other forms because what 25 year old doesn’t want a little pink poop-machine?

]]> By: Amanda Sullivan http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/#comment-11307 Amanda Sullivan Sun, 12 Feb 2006 12:25:45 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=470#comment-11307 a breath of fresh air. I have just learned of you twisty and this fabulous blog. mind if I, too, plagiarize? You all are my kind of people!!!!! Will be a daily visitor from NOW ON! Thanks! xoxoMandy a breath of fresh air. I have just learned of you twisty and this fabulous blog. mind if I, too, plagiarize? You all are my kind of people!!!!! Will be a daily visitor from NOW ON! Thanks! xoxoMandy

]]> By: Burrow http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/#comment-11303 Burrow Sun, 12 Feb 2006 09:12:10 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=470#comment-11303 Ugh I had to explain to a prolifer that when I had money to get my tubes tied I couldn't find someone to do it b/c I was "too young" and childless. Now 10 years later I can't afford it and wonder if things have changed that much (still childless and I'm gonna stay that way dammit) I did tell her she could pay for it. Although I never would have had to abort if I would have gotten my tubes tied in teh first place and for that I blame the stupid patriarchy loving doctor. Ugh I had to explain to a prolifer that when I had money to get my tubes tied I couldn’t find someone to do it b/c I was “too young” and childless. Now 10 years later I can’t afford it and wonder if things have changed that much (still childless and I’m gonna stay that way dammit) I did tell her she could pay for it. Although I never would have had to abort if I would have gotten my tubes tied in teh first place and for that I blame the stupid patriarchy loving doctor.

]]> By: Wordlackey http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/11/human-rights-post-176/#comment-11299 Wordlackey Sun, 12 Feb 2006 07:28:16 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=470#comment-11299 After a couple of scary pregnancy scares, I got my tubes tied at age 21 with remarkably little hassle in the late 1970s. Oh, yeah, right. I'm a dude, of <strong>course</strong> they're not going to question my resolve or whether I've thought it through. Silly me. After a couple of scary pregnancy scares, I got my tubes tied at age 21 with remarkably little hassle in the late 1970s. Oh, yeah, right. I’m a dude, of course they’re not going to question my resolve or whether I’ve thought it through. Silly me.

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