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		<title>By: Mike Stranger</title>
		<link>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-41459</link>
		<author>Mike Stranger</author>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Mar 2007 12:19:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>God site. Thanks!</description>
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		<title>By: batgirl</title>
		<link>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13640</link>
		<author>batgirl</author>
		<pubDate>Sat, 04 Mar 2006 01:25:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13640</guid>
		<description>&lt;i&gt;How about taking a good hard look at any of the myriad of BDSM dating websites out there and see how many thousands of intelligent, well adjusted, sane, and coherent women are out there ACTIVELY SEEKING dominant males to have relationships EXACTLY like the one this guy described in his contract.&lt;/i&gt; 

Regardless of how one feels about BDSM, this contract was not part of a BSDM relationship; it was abuse inflicted on a woman by her spouse.  Last time I checked, BDSM required a "safe word" or something similar, and a BDSM relationship is agreed to by both partners, regardless of who is the dom.  This contract contains neither of these.

So stop acting like this guy is all "alternative lifestyle" because he's actually just a dick.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><i>How about taking a good hard look at any of the myriad of BDSM dating websites out there and see how many thousands of intelligent, well adjusted, sane, and coherent women are out there ACTIVELY SEEKING dominant males to have relationships EXACTLY like the one this guy described in his contract.</i> </p>
<p>Regardless of how one feels about BDSM, this contract was not part of a BSDM relationship; it was abuse inflicted on a woman by her spouse.  Last time I checked, BDSM required a &#8220;safe word&#8221; or something similar, and a BDSM relationship is agreed to by both partners, regardless of who is the dom.  This contract contains neither of these.</p>
<p>So stop acting like this guy is all &#8220;alternative lifestyle&#8221; because he&#8217;s actually just a dick.</p>
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		<title>By: LizDexic</title>
		<link>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13478</link>
		<author>LizDexic</author>
		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Mar 2006 15:08:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13478</guid>
		<description>Ok. Ban him. (I'd say "fuck him" but who would want to.)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ok. Ban him. (I&#8217;d say &#8220;fuck him&#8221; but who would want to.)</p>
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		<title>By: Twisty</title>
		<link>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13467</link>
		<author>Twisty</author>
		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Mar 2006 12:07:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13467</guid>
		<description>LizDexic, the point is not that "all porn is wrong." The point is that all porn that is produced under auspices of patriarchy is misogynist. Whether or not that is wrong I leave it to you to decide.

The Story of O is about an empty fuckbot.

As for PBD, he had to leave us because, as he pointed out in a comment I got this morning, I am not intelligent enough, or attractive enough, to fit in with the real world, so I obviously can't get laid, which is the root of all my problems, and the other readers are all ugly harpies, too, which means he can no longer read this blog.

But then a funny thing happened. He posted again &lt;em&gt;under a different name!&lt;/em&gt; Have you ever heard of such a thing? A male commenter who is too good for this sucky blog, sneaking back for more? Now &lt;em&gt;that&lt;/em&gt; guy's a true original!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>LizDexic, the point is not that &#8220;all porn is wrong.&#8221; The point is that all porn that is produced under auspices of patriarchy is misogynist. Whether or not that is wrong I leave it to you to decide.</p>
<p>The Story of O is about an empty fuckbot.</p>
<p>As for PBD, he had to leave us because, as he pointed out in a comment I got this morning, I am not intelligent enough, or attractive enough, to fit in with the real world, so I obviously can&#8217;t get laid, which is the root of all my problems, and the other readers are all ugly harpies, too, which means he can no longer read this blog.</p>
<p>But then a funny thing happened. He posted again <em>under a different name!</em> Have you ever heard of such a thing? A male commenter who is too good for this sucky blog, sneaking back for more? Now <em>that</em> guy&#8217;s a true original!</p>
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		<title>By: LizDexic</title>
		<link>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13462</link>
		<author>LizDexic</author>
		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Mar 2006 05:36:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13462</guid>
		<description>Twisty, thanks for the site...but I don't think you should ban PDB.
I think the more outrageous statement is the one that says
"all porn is wrong." PDB (is that for "presidential daily briefing?)
shouldn't be banned...just dissed as a troll.

Porn: I know...the objectification of women. Actually, women are often shown
in their entirety while men are objectified by having only the relevant
parts showing. (The only part I really can't understand is the many 
ejaculating-on-the-face thing. That's not really a turn-on for anyone, is it?
Would finding someone drooling egg whites do the same thing?)

I sort of wondered what ol' Travis was offering in exchange...i.e. was he
rich? Unless there's another Travis Frey, he's a groundskeeper at a golf
course. What a dipshit.
I'm also guessing that his wife put up with his shit for nine years and then
when she balked is when he "kidnapped" her.
If anyone has read "The Story of O"...a lot of this jerk's ideas are from that book.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Twisty, thanks for the site&#8230;but I don&#8217;t think you should ban PDB.<br />
I think the more outrageous statement is the one that says<br />
&#8220;all porn is wrong.&#8221; PDB (is that for &#8220;presidential daily briefing?)<br />
shouldn&#8217;t be banned&#8230;just dissed as a troll.</p>
<p>Porn: I know&#8230;the objectification of women. Actually, women are often shown<br />
in their entirety while men are objectified by having only the relevant<br />
parts showing. (The only part I really can&#8217;t understand is the many<br />
ejaculating-on-the-face thing. That&#8217;s not really a turn-on for anyone, is it?<br />
Would finding someone drooling egg whites do the same thing?)</p>
<p>I sort of wondered what ol&#8217; Travis was offering in exchange&#8230;i.e. was he<br />
rich? Unless there&#8217;s another Travis Frey, he&#8217;s a groundskeeper at a golf<br />
course. What a dipshit.<br />
I&#8217;m also guessing that his wife put up with his shit for nine years and then<br />
when she balked is when he &#8220;kidnapped&#8221; her.<br />
If anyone has read &#8220;The Story of O&#8221;&#8230;a lot of this jerk&#8217;s ideas are from that book.</p>
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		<title>By: Twisty</title>
		<link>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13405</link>
		<author>Twisty</author>
		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Mar 2006 20:09:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13405</guid>
		<description>I don't ask much. Really, I don't. I pay 14 dollars a month to keep this site running, and put in 3 or 4 hours a day doing research and writing posts and keeping up with all the discussions, and all I ask in return is that commenters &lt;em&gt;read the fucking FAQ&lt;/em&gt; before posting. Yet here is PBD, ignoring this one simple request. I am forced to conclude that he is just too simple to be published on a patriarchy-blaming blog of this cailbre. Sayonara, PBD.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I don&#8217;t ask much. Really, I don&#8217;t. I pay 14 dollars a month to keep this site running, and put in 3 or 4 hours a day doing research and writing posts and keeping up with all the discussions, and all I ask in return is that commenters <em>read the fucking FAQ</em> before posting. Yet here is PBD, ignoring this one simple request. I am forced to conclude that he is just too simple to be published on a patriarchy-blaming blog of this cailbre. Sayonara, PBD.</p>
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		<title>By: PBD</title>
		<link>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13397</link>
		<author>PBD</author>
		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Mar 2006 19:21:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-13397</guid>
		<description>For those of you male-bashers who just don't get it...how about taking a good hard look at any of the myriad of BDSM dating websites out there and see how many thousands of intelligent, well adjusted, sane, and coherent women are out there ACTIVELY SEEKING dominant males to have relationships EXACTLY like the one this guy described in his contract. It would also please you to know there are just as many men wanting to serve dominant women that way. That can't be such a bad thing, can it? It seems many of you would really love to have a guy you could walk all over.

Here's a question: So many of you think this guy is so disgusting and should be locked up - or treated to staple guns(lady xoc), shears(hattie), and rusty knives(kat) because - AND ONLY BECAUSE - of his lifestyle. SO.......you must have no problem with rednecks and skinheads putting the boots to them "FAGS" out there either, I assume. I thought this was America. What makes you so different than Adolf Hitler??

Now, is this guy really a pedophile? Did he really commit the acts that his wife accused him of - AGAINST her will?? If a jury says yes, then let's send him up the river and let Bubba have his way with the guy in a cold cell.

But the news is sketchy at best....there are NO FACTS available. Somebody PLEASE present me the EVIDENCE that shows her allegations to be 100% true. You are all ready to castrate him and chop him into pieces - and he hasn't even been arraigned yet!! Damn, have we really evolved this little in 400 years? Remember - they used to burn women at the stake for no more than the accusation that they were witches.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>For those of you male-bashers who just don&#8217;t get it&#8230;how about taking a good hard look at any of the myriad of BDSM dating websites out there and see how many thousands of intelligent, well adjusted, sane, and coherent women are out there ACTIVELY SEEKING dominant males to have relationships EXACTLY like the one this guy described in his contract. It would also please you to know there are just as many men wanting to serve dominant women that way. That can&#8217;t be such a bad thing, can it? It seems many of you would really love to have a guy you could walk all over.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s a question: So many of you think this guy is so disgusting and should be locked up - or treated to staple guns(lady xoc), shears(hattie), and rusty knives(kat) because - AND ONLY BECAUSE - of his lifestyle. SO&#8230;&#8230;.you must have no problem with rednecks and skinheads putting the boots to them &#8220;FAGS&#8221; out there either, I assume. I thought this was America. What makes you so different than Adolf Hitler??</p>
<p>Now, is this guy really a pedophile? Did he really commit the acts that his wife accused him of - AGAINST her will?? If a jury says yes, then let&#8217;s send him up the river and let Bubba have his way with the guy in a cold cell.</p>
<p>But the news is sketchy at best&#8230;.there are NO FACTS available. Somebody PLEASE present me the EVIDENCE that shows her allegations to be 100% true. You are all ready to castrate him and chop him into pieces - and he hasn&#8217;t even been arraigned yet!! Damn, have we really evolved this little in 400 years? Remember - they used to burn women at the stake for no more than the accusation that they were witches.</p>
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		<title>By: eponymous</title>
		<link>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-12781</link>
		<author>eponymous</author>
		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Feb 2006 19:53:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-12781</guid>
		<description>a) There are plenty of &lt;a href="http://www.infoplease.com/spot/slavery1.html" rel="nofollow"&gt;modern slaves&lt;/a&gt; in the world I can ask, if I really need an opinion.

b) I wonder how many of them would believe that the commodification of a person by the fact that their photographic representation was being objectified in a sexual manner was equivalent to, I dunno, actual &lt;a href="http://www.sptimes.com/2002/07/03/Columns/Slavery_alive_in_Flor.shtml" rel="nofollow"&gt;human bondage&lt;/a&gt;?

But thanks for trying to explain Puffin's absurd assumption. More than we can say for her/him.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>a) There are plenty of <a href="http://www.infoplease.com/spot/slavery1.html" rel="nofollow">modern slaves</a> in the world I can ask, if I really need an opinion.</p>
<p>b) I wonder how many of them would believe that the commodification of a person by the fact that their photographic representation was being objectified in a sexual manner was equivalent to, I dunno, actual <a href="http://www.sptimes.com/2002/07/03/Columns/Slavery_alive_in_Flor.shtml" rel="nofollow">human bondage</a>?</p>
<p>But thanks for trying to explain Puffin&#8217;s absurd assumption. More than we can say for her/him.</p>
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		<title>By: Twisty</title>
		<link>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-12760</link>
		<author>Twisty</author>
		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Feb 2006 17:51:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-12760</guid>
		<description>"Would you mind explaining the inherent problem with commodification?"

It's too bad slavery got outlawed here a few years back, or you could ask a slave or two to explain it to you.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Would you mind explaining the inherent problem with commodification?&#8221;</p>
<p>It&#8217;s too bad slavery got outlawed here a few years back, or you could ask a slave or two to explain it to you.</p>
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		<title>By: eponymous</title>
		<link>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-12758</link>
		<author>eponymous</author>
		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Feb 2006 17:14:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/02/17/mate-expectations/#comment-12758</guid>
		<description>&lt;blockquote&gt;And THATâ€™s what makes ALL porn wrong - the commodification of (mostly) womenâ€™s bodies for your masturbatory pleasure.&lt;/blockquote&gt;

And why is the commodification of anyone's body (done with their express consent to their own advantage) inherently wrong? How is that different from "erotic" art? How is that different from simple pictures of people modeling clothing? You're conclusions, based on this assumption, are all drawn from this. 

Would you mind explaining the inherent problem with commodification?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>And THATâ€™s what makes ALL porn wrong - the commodification of (mostly) womenâ€™s bodies for your masturbatory pleasure.</p></blockquote>
<p>And why is the commodification of anyone&#8217;s body (done with their express consent to their own advantage) inherently wrong? How is that different from &#8220;erotic&#8221; art? How is that different from simple pictures of people modeling clothing? You&#8217;re conclusions, based on this assumption, are all drawn from this. </p>
<p>Would you mind explaining the inherent problem with commodification?</p>
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