Comments on: Dude Week: The Gripping Series Finale

By: big momma

big momma — Tue, 02 May 2006 14:54:53 +0000

i have a friend, a term used sparingly more and more, who is of white male descent. he is a African American studies major to boot. he always professes his “feminism” and when i was sending him links to anti-porn blogs by one of his heroes, Stan Goff, he told me i was “preaching to the choir” but he is a single male and needs to go see strippers. A few weeks ago he said he called a woman who gave him his number, had sex with her and later told me she was a whore cause she let him “put it in her butt”. we went came back from a trip egypt, where my breast was grabbed by a young local and later a shop keeper attemted to dry hump me, i told people about it. it was my way of dealing with my own personal anger of not being able to do anything and not having done anything when i could of (like knock the shop keepers ass out). my “friend” told me it offended him that i told people about it firs and made him feel like i did not appreciate the trip (since he paid for it with Army money from being in iraq).

there is nothing like being invalidated and told to sit down and shut up.

his mom even got in on it and told him she has had worse stuff happen to her in the US, so what am i complaining about.

could this be the fault of………. patriarchy?……….(oh no!)

By: F-Words

F-Words — Tue, 02 May 2006 03:53:41 +0000

Credit where credit’s due

Unless feminists are committed to keeping the world a shitty place until we can slip seamlessly into a morally-unambiguous, universally-appreciated utopia, I think it would be wise to welcome Freeman into the fold.

By: scratchy888

scratchy888 — Tue, 02 May 2006 01:48:55 +0000

Wow!

A man who, occasionally, after gauging the situation from afar to determine whether or not the situation is one he could handle should it turn ugly, puts his physical well-being nominally at risk, if he feels like it!

As opposed to the woman heâ€™s so chivalrously helping, who is in a much greater degree of physical risk, whether she wants to be or not, without any ability to size up the situation beforehand, ALL THE TIME.

Tell me who deserves the cookie, again?

I’ve said it before — and it bears repeating: Right wing males like to represent themselves as being “tough”. This toughness, unfortunately, stays at a level of self-representation, often not approaching actuality — especially in relation to how tough the women in a right wing societyactually need to be, just to survive.

By: Pony

Pony — Tue, 02 May 2006 01:25:13 +0000

Ms. Kate

That theory is only slightly more appealing than the one I read on Broadsheet not long ago, apropos the birth-control pill; which, did you know? ushered in women’s liberation.

Someone named DAN.

By: Ms Kate

Ms Kate — Tue, 02 May 2006 01:14:09 +0000

And we all know that women have the vote because the consciousness of women was raised.

And the civil rights gains of the 50s and 60s were only because people of color were enlightened.

Right.

Perhaps raising and enlightening women to refuse to cooperate comes first, but that is only part of the picture IMHO. There is ultimately a need to finish the job from the other side: to co-opt and corrupt the powers that the patriarchy holds over our lives by undermining the privelege in the name of fairness. That involves male allies to stand for justice and do some inside work that we are not able to do.

By: TP

TP — Tue, 02 May 2006 00:50:14 +0000

The male feminist can only listen and learn. Many men call themselves feminists and they never listen to anything unless it is to more vigorously defend their self righteous feminist dudeliness. A male feminist will always make key mistakes because of his own deeply ingrained assumptions about male privilege. Many men call themselves feminists and then spend endless amounts of time pretending that sexist crap they say was really helpful advice. The male feminist will always be a feminist whether you consider him one or not. Many men will give lip service to the feminist label if they see it as cool or what all their female friends are doing, but some men are simply born predisposed to listen when women teach them the strange and terrible truths about what it really feels like to be a member of the sex class in a world that grows increasingly hysterical about higher and more transgressive levels of X-Treme Sexiness each day. A male feminist will always indicate a more enlightened and open minded attitude about the sexes than an openly sexist man. So that even the most pathetic and jeer-worthy idiot out there briefly trying on the sensational clothing of feminist garb is better than the huge majority of men who actively seek to humiliate and subdue women in as many ways as they can devise. Like certain Dakotan Governors. The male feminist is just a marginal event in the really important struggle to raise the consciousness of women. Sure, feminist men would like to think that they are so noble and patronizing and that the women are so fucking lucky to have men like them on their side and on and on until you want to vomit. But the fact is simple and unarguable: Women need to understand first, women need to share and lean and grow, women are the ones who are taught to submit and accept it. Saving one woman from mistrusting feminism is far more important than any number of men. The men already have it made! Who could possibly care about them?

By: W.Shore

W.Shore — Mon, 01 May 2006 19:52:50 +0000

Twisty, if you like AC Newman I must recommend AC’s first band, back from when he was just Carl Newman. They’re called Zumpano and their first album rawks. If you can’t find it, I would happily send you a copy.

By: Ron O

Ron O — Mon, 01 May 2006 18:35:38 +0000

I’m happy to report the borscht met my expectations. They had a Lithuanian style which still had the thin warm beet broth, but with little dumplings instead of a meat pastry. Three side salads (cold sauerkraut, warm beets, and a red cabbage) were all tasty. The stuffed cabbage wasn’t as good as grandpa’s; the gravy could have had some mushrooms. Overall a winner, I’ll go back.

The place was filled with Poles. I got a chuckle from the patrons with my horrible pronunciation. Thankfully the waitress spoke english well.

By: Pony

Pony — Mon, 01 May 2006 17:53:02 +0000

Ron O.

Just get out there with that attitude and spread it around. Teach the boys and the girls (wow you’d be amazed how many girls now can’t cook!) how to make soup. Very easy with a slow cooker.

Cypress I envy you so much. I spent several happy hours along the coast up from Victoria and then at that little Emily Carr gallery, about 14 years ago.

Mandos if it hurts to say *polish* then eat pyrogha which is the Ukrainian word for pierogies. Purr roh heh

By: cypress

cypress — Mon, 01 May 2006 17:38:44 +0000

Pony #35 - i have the good fortune to live in emily carr land - and today the cedar trees in the garden are dancing.

Virtual Museum of Canada has images and info. it’s a place to begin. Carr’s work is not well known - and if she had been better known she’d be part of what came to be called ‘the group of 7′.

we all know who to blame for her not being recognized, compensated or respected.