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By: Holla Back That Ass Up! « Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

Holla Back That Ass Up! « Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 14:07:21 +0000

[...] of you maybe aware of the much-lauded feminist self-defense project, Holla Back. The project started with Holla Back NYC, and has spread to an uncountable number of [...]

By: Fuck You Aussie Perverts at I Blame The Patriarchy

Fuck You Aussie Perverts at I Blame The Patriarchy — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 22:55:15 +0000

[...] to be there was only one HollaBack, HollaBackNYC, which is where I sent my photo of ”King Leer.“ Localized HollaBack branches have since sprung up all over the world (see any HollaBack site to [...]

By: Yo, taqueau at I Blame The Patriarchy

Yo, taqueau at I Blame The Patriarchy — Tue, 22 May 2007 15:49:01 +0000

[...] This condition — the one where there is only one sort of human — exists now, by the way. It’s just that patriarchy has so cleverly framed the narrative, and so assiduously enforced its assimilation, that modern humans do not possess the intellective tools to perceive it. _________________________ * Persistent readers will recall the Hula Hut as the scene of a 2006 ogling incident involving a super-gross dude equipped with entitlement-squirting Ray-Bans. I snapped his picture and he is now safely archived somewhere at HollabackNYC. [...]

By: Eric S

Eric S — Mon, 15 May 2006 12:45:59 +0000

New Jersey's WFMU made a blog post about yacht rock a while back: http://blog.wfmu.org/freeform/2005/10/this_post_conce.html

By: c.

c. — Wed, 10 May 2006 16:24:43 +0000

Pony,
Thank you. I was upset all night until my husband pointed out that I’m not the one who has done something wrong. My boss sucks and will not EVER understand why “nudie” pictures offend the crap out of me. But I will, eventually, get a new job. Even better, I will someday either be the boss or have seniority and power and I will make sure that none of this crap goes on under my watch.

Until then, I like to remind myself that the good old boys are, indeed, old and will soon die off. Then I’m putting my pissed off ass in a position of power and kicking some ass!

By: Pony

Pony — Tue, 09 May 2006 23:08:58 +0000

I neglected to add, this happened to me. In 1964. We’ve come a long way baby. I was a lowly secretary. No amount of polite requests got me anything but the butt of jokes around the office. Since I figured I had nothing to lose, I would walk into his office to take dictation, and turn the calendar down on his desk. He thought that was so cute. It was all I could achieve. Life as a working girl got worse, believe it or not. Sometime during BlameCon we’ll chat.

By: Pony

Pony — Tue, 09 May 2006 23:05:39 +0000

No you can’t quit your job. Don’t apologize. No-one expects you to quit your job. I hope you’ll find a firm owned by women.

By: c.

c. — Tue, 09 May 2006 20:44:29 +0000

ae: thank you for the link. Sadly, as an attorney, I know all about how to sue the dirty old man’s nasty ass. Unfortunately, I’d have to bring a suit in state court b/c I work at a firm w/ less than 15 employees (the employee requirement pursuant to Title VII). Without Title VII, it’s harder to prove harassment and damages. Also, I’d have to be willing to lose my job which, with a mortgage and $1,000/month in law school loans to pay, I can’t afford. And I’d have to accept that I’d be a pariah in the legal community. The good old boys still rule and wouldn’t look to kindly at me for targeting one of their own. So instead of doing something (other than looking for another job every free minute I have), I feel like crap for giving into The Man. A stronger, better person wouldn’t put up with it but I’m too afraid I’ll lose my job and not be able to practice law (which I happen to love).

And to clarify – the pictures are of nude women, not nude women engaged in sexual acts. The pictures may not be porn under the legal definition but it still SUCKS to have to look at them (and be told by our receptionist that it’s just a “harmless” and “funny” habit of my boss).

By: ae

ae — Tue, 09 May 2006 18:56:27 +0000

How to get your boss to stop putting porn on his computer wallpaper.

By: c.

c. — Mon, 08 May 2006 19:28:28 +0000

I’ve been overweight for a while so the leering has pretty much disappeared. However, I’ve recently joined a gym in an attempt to get some regular exercise in my life. The other day I was approaching the gym which is in a strip mall and an employee of a local deli on a break gave me the full on “up and down.” He was a gross little man with a cigarette hanging off his lip. I just glared at him (I think I might even have bared my teeth a little). My first (sarcastic) thought was “Gee, I must be pretty now.” Isn’t it great that the patriarchy makes you feel like shit for being fat but the “reward” for losing some weight is having men stare at you like you’re a walking vagina?

I do have some anti-leering tactics, though. I have quite a temper and a fair amount of pent up agression. If I find that someone is staring at me long enough to make me uncomfortable, I’ll look the guy straight in the face and say “DO I KNOW YOU?” I find that addressing the person makes them stop leering and asking a question forces them to respond in some way which usually shames them.

Of course, part of the reason for my pent up agression is that I still haven’t figured out a way to get my boss to stop putting porn on his computer wallpaper. Nothing better than discussing a legal issue with your boss while trying to block the image of a dead eyed naked woman from your peripheral vision.