Comments on: Judgmental Sex Pedantry http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/ Sat, 30 Aug 2008 00:47:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Being Amber Rhea » Blog Archive » Do as I say, and as I do http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-126838 Being Amber Rhea » Blog Archive » Do as I say, and as I do Thu, 21 Aug 2008 21:09:44 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-126838 [...] and ridiculous examples recently came from Twisty at I Blame The Patriarchy. Her iron-fisted condemnation of all blowjobs, everywhere has sparked a bit of a kerfluffle (to use Anthony’s word) in the [...] […] and ridiculous examples recently came from Twisty at I Blame The Patriarchy. Her iron-fisted condemnation of all blowjobs, everywhere has sparked a bit of a kerfluffle (to use Anthony’s word) in the […]

]]> By: Smite Me! [.net] » Blog Archive » I Blame the Patriarchy http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-122094 Smite Me! [.net] » Blog Archive » I Blame the Patriarchy Fri, 11 Jul 2008 01:59:29 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-122094 [...] the UK’s Medical Research Council, one more reason to hate men and their funk-filled bratwursts: The growth of cervical and womb cancers may be fuelled by a hormone-like molecule in semen, a [...] […] the UK’s Medical Research Council, one more reason to hate men and their funk-filled bratwursts: The growth of cervical and womb cancers may be fuelled by a hormone-like molecule in semen, a […]

]]> By: On Writing, Atrocity and Privilege, Redux at Faux Real http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-114297 On Writing, Atrocity and Privilege, Redux at Faux Real Sat, 12 Apr 2008 20:09:45 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-114297 [...] comfort level with difficult material. I suppose it’s easy to have an opinion on whether or not political women ought to be down with going down, or how to properly treat a customer service employee, but what the fuck do you do about genocide [...] […] comfort level with difficult material. I suppose it’s easy to have an opinion on whether or not political women ought to be down with going down, or how to properly treat a customer service employee, but what the fuck do you do about genocide […]

]]> By: I think I found a new subhead for my other blog « Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-109140 I think I found a new subhead for my other blog « Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing Wed, 12 Mar 2008 14:55:36 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-109140 [...] of this juicy, juicy scandal or a nuanced position on the age-old debates about sex work, porn, blowjobs, on and [...] […] of this juicy, juicy scandal or a nuanced position on the age-old debates about sex work, porn, blowjobs, on and […]

]]> By: bodemiller http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-108878 bodemiller Tue, 11 Mar 2008 02:13:14 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-108878 why it is so necessary to intellectualize everything and create absolute categoricals? Especially something like sex, whose true essence cannot be defined or explained, because there are so many undefinable concepts attached to it. Love, spiritual connection, confirmation of self through orgasm - these are things that can be experienced, but cannot be done justice when put into words. In and of itself, oral sex is simply one way of accessing those concepts (which ones are accessed will depend on the participants). Its only when enculturation comes into play that certain acts have certain connotations. Perhaps you are looking too much at the culture around oral sex (how other have defined it for themselves and for others in the past) and not enough at what oral sex can be (sure, you're looking at the negatives like bad taste, physical discomfort, but what about the broader experience that some other posters have mentioned, such as making your partner happy, or how oral sex is an integral part of foreplay) I can't help but feel that a lot of people posting here are trying to rationally justify their personal sexual/gender hangups by creating clever ways of holding others responsible for their troubles. why it is so necessary to intellectualize everything and create absolute categoricals? Especially something like sex, whose true essence cannot be defined or explained, because there are so many undefinable concepts attached to it. Love, spiritual connection, confirmation of self through orgasm - these are things that can be experienced, but cannot be done justice when put into words. In and of itself, oral sex is simply one way of accessing those concepts (which ones are accessed will depend on the participants). Its only when enculturation comes into play that certain acts have certain connotations. Perhaps you are looking too much at the culture around oral sex (how other have defined it for themselves and for others in the past) and not enough at what oral sex can be (sure, you’re looking at the negatives like bad taste, physical discomfort, but what about the broader experience that some other posters have mentioned, such as making your partner happy, or how oral sex is an integral part of foreplay)

I can’t help but feel that a lot of people posting here are trying to rationally justify their personal sexual/gender hangups by creating clever ways of holding others responsible for their troubles.

]]> By: For some reason, deviantART is inaccessible. « Sara Speaking http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-82247 For some reason, deviantART is inaccessible. « Sara Speaking Mon, 23 Jul 2007 22:19:30 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-82247 [...] So I’ve been reading here and here. You’ll prolly want to read through them for yourself first, though since they’re long I’ll understand if you’re not interested. [...] […] So I’ve been reading here and here. You’ll prolly want to read through them for yourself first, though since they’re long I’ll understand if you’re not interested. […]

]]> By: Serithe http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-28719 Serithe Sat, 11 Nov 2006 21:58:22 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-28719 Uhh, TMI alert here, too, I guess. A year or so ago at the age of 17, I made the mistake of allowing my friendship with a boy to progress into a full-fledged relationship, my first (and hopefully last). Quickly, he began pressuring me into sex, and I was more than a little resistant. Though I relented at one point, I absolutely refused to give him head, despite his constant nagging. He tried every argument in the book. He even insisted on going down on me, in hopes that I would reciprocate. I didn't. While making out, he once tried to gently push my head down downward. I almost punched him in the face. He asked me why I was so adamantly opposed to fellatio; I said it seemed degrading and uncomfortable. Though he produced several combative arguments, I never gave in, though internally I wondered if there was something wrong with me. I couldn't quite put my finger on why I refused, even when we had performed the male equivalent. And -- lo and behold -- here is Twisty's three-word footnote as a beam of light in the darkness: "It's fucking gross." Yeah, that about covers it. And that's why this entry is such a classic to me. Also, the phrase "funk-filled bratwurst" is hilarious, because it's so damn true. Patriarchy-minded men (like, all of them) glorify their dicks as a symbol of power and triumphant manhood (The sword of virility! The filler of the void that is the vagina!), but Twisty knows what they really are. Funk-filled bratwursts. Truer words were never spoken. And by the way, that little boyfriend blip ended when I committed relationship-suicide by telling him I no longer cared to have sex. He blew up, calling me selfish and insensitive, and I never heard from him again. One of the best decisions I ever made. Uhh, TMI alert here, too, I guess.

A year or so ago at the age of 17, I made the mistake of allowing my friendship with a boy to progress into a full-fledged relationship, my first (and hopefully last). Quickly, he began pressuring me into sex, and I was more than a little resistant. Though I relented at one point, I absolutely refused to give him head, despite his constant nagging.

He tried every argument in the book. He even insisted on going down on me, in hopes that I would reciprocate. I didn’t. While making out, he once tried to gently push my head down downward. I almost punched him in the face.

He asked me why I was so adamantly opposed to fellatio; I said it seemed degrading and uncomfortable. Though he produced several combative arguments, I never gave in, though internally I wondered if there was something wrong with me. I couldn’t quite put my finger on why I refused, even when we had performed the male equivalent.

And — lo and behold — here is Twisty’s three-word footnote as a beam of light in the darkness: “It’s fucking gross.”

Yeah, that about covers it. And that’s why this entry is such a classic to me. Also, the phrase “funk-filled bratwurst” is hilarious, because it’s so damn true. Patriarchy-minded men (like, all of them) glorify their dicks as a symbol of power and triumphant manhood (The sword of virility! The filler of the void that is the vagina!), but Twisty knows what they really are. Funk-filled bratwursts. Truer words were never spoken.

And by the way, that little boyfriend blip ended when I committed relationship-suicide by telling him I no longer cared to have sex. He blew up, calling me selfish and insensitive, and I never heard from him again. One of the best decisions I ever made.

]]> By: Serithe http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-28718 Serithe Sat, 11 Nov 2006 21:56:42 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-28718 Uh, TMI alert here, too, I guess. A year or so ago at the age of 17, I made the mistake of allowing my friendship with a boy to progress into a full-fledged relationship, my first (and hopefully last). Quickly, he began pressuring me into sex, and I was more than a little resistant. Though I relented at one point, I absolutely refused to give him head, despite his constant nagging. He tried every argument in the book. He even insisted on going down on me, in hopes that I would reciprocate. I didn't. While making out, he once tried to gently push my head down downward. I almost punched him in the face. He asked me why I was so adamantly opposed to fellatio; I said it seemed degrading and uncomfortable. Though he produced several combative arguments, I never gave in, though internally I wondered if there was something wrong with me. I couldn't quite put my finger on why I refused, even when we had performed the male equivalent. And -- lo and behold -- here is Twisty's three-word footnote as a beam of light in the darkness: "It's fucking gross." Yeah, that about covers it. And that's why this entry is such a classic to me. Also, the phrase "funk-filled bratwurst" is hilarious, because it's so damn true. Patriarchy-minded men (like, all of them) glorify their dicks as a symbol of power and triumphant manhood (The sword of virility! The filler of the void that is the vagina!), but Twisty knows what they really are. Funk-filled bratwursts. Truer words were never spoken. And by the way, that little boyfriend blip ended when I committed relationship-suicide by telling him I no longer cared to have sex. He blew up, calling me selfish and insensitive, and I never heard from him again. One of the best decisions I ever made. Uh, TMI alert here, too, I guess.

A year or so ago at the age of 17, I made the mistake of allowing my friendship with a boy to progress into a full-fledged relationship, my first (and hopefully last). Quickly, he began pressuring me into sex, and I was more than a little resistant. Though I relented at one point, I absolutely refused to give him head, despite his constant nagging.

He tried every argument in the book. He even insisted on going down on me, in hopes that I would reciprocate. I didn’t. While making out, he once tried to gently push my head down downward. I almost punched him in the face.

He asked me why I was so adamantly opposed to fellatio; I said it seemed degrading and uncomfortable. Though he produced several combative arguments, I never gave in, though internally I wondered if there was something wrong with me. I couldn’t quite put my finger on why I refused, even when we had performed the male equivalent.

And — lo and behold — here is Twisty’s three-word footnote as a beam of light in the darkness: “It’s fucking gross.”

Yeah, that about covers it. And that’s why this entry is such a classic to me. Also, the phrase “funk-filled bratwurst” is hilarious, because it’s so damn true. Patriarchy-minded men (like, all of them) glorify their dicks as a symbol of power and triumphant manhood (The sword of virility! The filler of the void that is the vagina!), but Twisty knows what they really are. Funk-filled bratwursts. Truer words were never spoken.

And by the way, that little boyfriend blip ended when I committed relationship-suicide by telling him I no longer cared to have sex. He blew up, calling me selfish and insensitive, and I never heard from him again. One of the best decisions I ever made.

]]> By: Bitch | Lab » News Flash: Teh Patriarchy discovers women have asses. Film at 11! http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-28267 Bitch | Lab » News Flash: Teh Patriarchy discovers women have asses. Film at 11! Tue, 31 Oct 2006 18:50:33 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-28267 [...] Ever since, Teh Patriarchy has invented ways to get women to enthusiastically play the skinflute. “The money shot is one option. Teh Patriarchy doesn’t like alternative branch bank deposits for nothing. But, they really needed a way to avoid the hated and feared pussy altogether,” says DeBurg’s chief research specialist, Huff N. Puffin. “Teh Patriarchy just tells women that they are the best ever.” That way, women will knock each other down to find the nearest carrot and give it a good waxing. [1] [...] […] Ever since, Teh Patriarchy has invented ways to get women to enthusiastically play the skinflute. “The money shot is one option. Teh Patriarchy doesn’t like alternative branch bank deposits for nothing. But, they really needed a way to avoid the hated and feared pussy altogether,” says DeBurg’s chief research specialist, Huff N. Puffin. “Teh Patriarchy just tells women that they are the best ever.” That way, women will knock each other down to find the nearest carrot and give it a good waxing. [1] […]

]]> By: The SmackDog Chronicles http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-24733 The SmackDog Chronicles Wed, 09 Aug 2006 17:50:16 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/06/14/judgemental-sex-pedantry/#comment-24733 [...] 1) Twisty, feeling bored and her occasional need to stir the pot, posts a screed about the absolute horror of blowjobs as a tool of Teh Patriarchy; she goes on and on about why any feminist or any self-respecting woman would dare resort to such a “fucking gross”, disgusting, yucky thing as to put a “funk-filled bratwurst” in her mouth. She opens her blog for those who do hummers to defend themselves. [...] […] 1) Twisty, feeling bored and her occasional need to stir the pot, posts a screed about the absolute horror of blowjobs as a tool of Teh Patriarchy; she goes on and on about why any feminist or any self-respecting woman would dare resort to such a “fucking gross”, disgusting, yucky thing as to put a “funk-filled bratwurst” in her mouth. She opens her blog for those who do hummers to defend themselves. […]

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