“Hey, Spit the Dummy, also appreciating your words from whereever (your name links me to a bunch of question marks for some reason).”

Sorry about that! The answer to the challenge accidentally found its way into the website box and so the link goes nowhere. Hopefully this current post will fix it, if not – HELP!

roamaround says:

“This reminds me of the reform versus revolution debates I’ve engaged in on the far left.

Yeah, I agree that this whole issue of reform v. revolution is a thorny one at times. I find to my surprise that I’m getting more radical as I get older, not less. Sometimes I think it might be of more political or practical long or short term value to soft-pedal my radical feminism opinions somewhat but what I love about this forum is the chance to ’spit the dummy’ over any old thing that’s been bugging me, even if the main stream would consider it ‘minor’. There’s not many places I’ve found to do that, so I value IBTP even more now that I’ve crossed the posting barrier. Enjoying your words, too, roamaround.

And that Purity Ball thing? Gross.

“You’re appreciating the gains the main stream media have main since the really bad old days, while I’m seething at how far they still have to go. The fact that the main stream media is still such a tool of the patriarchy is so appallingly frustrating, isn’t it, and I personally don’t think we should let the little fact that it’s attempting to sugar-coat it’s sexism prevent us from blaming it long and hard every time it offers up this sort of tepid, mealy-mouthed crap.”

This reminds me of the reform versus revolution debates I’ve engaged in on the far left. Personally I think reform is good. So far, I haven’t been burned at the stake or been forced to go around with an A on my clothes which is progress. I can also drive, vote and own property which many women even today can’t do. Reform improves lives and is nothing to sneeze at. But is it enough? No, I agree. This mealy-mouthed crap can and should get called out. Long live the revolution.

I think people are afraid to actually know anything about women’s scary genitals, because that’s totally sick and gross and stuff, and a sign that you’re a weirdo pervert and/or radical feminist.
As a complementary blameworthy angle, I guess they also can’t really be bothered to use correct terminology, because even if it weren’t sick and gross and stuff, it’s not as if it’s in any way important.

Grrr.

“I love this thread. Yes, where are the paparazzi’s pantsless photos of Brad Pitt? And for a first-time blamer, this Spit the Dummy seems spot-on.”

Thanks, Orange – and to everybody who said such nice things about my posts on this thread. I’ve been an avid reader of Twisty’s blog for a while now and hopefully I’ve learned something from you master blamers. Reading was sublime but posting fucking rocks! I only wish I’d mustered the nerve to do it earlier.

As for the “hairy vagina” concept—when my son was 5 and he backed into me in the shower one day, he recoiled from being poked by hair. He exclaimed, “Mom! I hate the hair on your ha-ji-niss. It makes me throw up.” To this day, I don’t know where that came from—never heard anything like it before or since. It did provide a good laugh for the grown-ups, though, the “hairy ha-ji-niss.” (If he had a sister, I suppose he’d have learned the word “vulva.”)