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]]> By: Martian Anthropologist » Chastity belts are “like, sooo yesterday”… http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-51021 Martian Anthropologist » Chastity belts are “like, sooo yesterday”… Thu, 12 Apr 2007 14:56:53 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-51021 [...] I’m with Twisty Faster: I blame the Patriarchy, too. [...] [...] I’m with Twisty Faster: I blame the Patriarchy, too. [...]

]]> By: God is for Suckers! - Commentary, news, and rants on the evils and stupidity of belief in the big invisible daddy in the sky. Illuminating and watchdogging the widespread attempts to institutionalize the theocratic rule of the US. Making fun of believers http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-50888 God is for Suckers! - Commentary, news, and rants on the evils and stupidity of belief in the big invisible daddy in the sky. Illuminating and watchdogging the widespread attempts to institutionalize the theocratic rule of the US. Making fun of believers Wed, 11 Apr 2007 19:29:47 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-50888 [...] You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site. Leave aReply [...] [...] You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site. Leave aReply [...]

]]> By: Bird http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47485 Bird Wed, 28 Mar 2007 22:18:03 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47485 When it comes to acquaintance rape, the thing that scares me the most is date rape drugs. I had an experience once at a party where I had a bad reaction with a prescription medication combined with alcohol (asthma meds that only cause this reaction in a few people). Anyways, I had no memory of the night or how I got home. I phoned our local community health phone service, and the nurse told me to put everything in a paper bag and go to the emergency room. It never even occurred to me until then that something very bad might have happened. I spent all night in the ER waiting for the SART nurse (sexual assault response team) to let me know whether or not I'd been raped. I was fine. A few days later, when I got hold of another woman who had been at the party, she said that her mother had driven me home and I had seemed really drunk but okay. But I'll never forget not knowing what had happened to me. Scary, scary shit. I can't imagine finding out that someone had raped you and not even remembering who it was or how it happened. There's no fighting against that. You just have to keep an eye on your drink, stick close to your friends, and hope to hell that you'll be safe. When it comes to acquaintance rape, the thing that scares me the most is date rape drugs. I had an experience once at a party where I had a bad reaction with a prescription medication combined with alcohol (asthma meds that only cause this reaction in a few people).

Anyways, I had no memory of the night or how I got home. I phoned our local community health phone service, and the nurse told me to put everything in a paper bag and go to the emergency room. It never even occurred to me until then that something very bad might have happened. I spent all night in the ER waiting for the SART nurse (sexual assault response team) to let me know whether or not I’d been raped.

I was fine. A few days later, when I got hold of another woman who had been at the party, she said that her mother had driven me home and I had seemed really drunk but okay.

But I’ll never forget not knowing what had happened to me. Scary, scary shit. I can’t imagine finding out that someone had raped you and not even remembering who it was or how it happened.

There’s no fighting against that. You just have to keep an eye on your drink, stick close to your friends, and hope to hell that you’ll be safe.

]]> By: kiki http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47474 kiki Wed, 28 Mar 2007 20:14:30 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47474 Did you know that the military won't cover the cost of an abortion, even if the servicewoman has been raped but they will cover the cost of breast implants? That says it all. Did you know that the military won’t cover the cost of an abortion, even if the servicewoman has been raped but they will cover the cost of breast implants? That says it all.

]]> By: mAndrea http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47470 mAndrea Wed, 28 Mar 2007 20:05:45 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47470 I should look up some rape studies I read previously. A tiny percentage of *reported* rapes end in gross physical injury and death - something like 2-3%. Of those, almost in all cases the victim was abducted and moved to another location. So fight to the freaking death in those cases. As for the rest of reported rapes, most of them were by acquaintances. The guy uses *the fear* of physical violence as a tool to coerce and intimidate the victim into passive cooperation. Afterwards, it comes down to "he said/she said". Would be much more difficult for the rapist to get away with it if he's covered in scratch marks, and the victim is temporarily banged up. Better temporary injuries which heal then a lifetime of not being believed and yet another rapist free to do it again. This is my opinion as a survivor and living with the aftermath. How many bar fights end in death? The guy isn't interested in causing permanent or serious injury, he's only interested in reducing his victim into a psychological puddle of fear. I feel sorry for all those girls raised to be passive "nice" ladies, because those are the ones who make great targets. I should look up some rape studies I read previously. A tiny percentage of *reported* rapes end in gross physical injury and death – something like 2-3%. Of those, almost in all cases the victim was abducted and moved to another location. So fight to the freaking death in those cases.

As for the rest of reported rapes, most of them were by acquaintances. The guy uses *the fear* of physical violence as a tool to coerce and intimidate the victim into passive cooperation. Afterwards, it comes down to “he said/she said”.

Would be much more difficult for the rapist to get away with it if he’s covered in scratch marks, and the victim is temporarily banged up. Better temporary injuries which heal then a lifetime of not being believed and yet another rapist free to do it again. This is my opinion as a survivor and living with the aftermath.

How many bar fights end in death? The guy isn’t interested in causing permanent or serious injury, he’s only interested in reducing his victim into a psychological puddle of fear.

I feel sorry for all those girls raised to be passive “nice” ladies, because those are the ones who make great targets.

]]> By: Bird http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47448 Bird Wed, 28 Mar 2007 17:29:11 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47448 Oh, and please don't think that I blame strong women who get raped either! I've known some damn tough women who've been victims too. Oh, and please don’t think that I blame strong women who get raped either! I’ve known some damn tough women who’ve been victims too.

]]> By: Bird http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47445 Bird Wed, 28 Mar 2007 17:27:34 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47445 Pony, I see your point. We're not in disagreement on that. The thought that my mother (who is helpless and in a hospice) or a woman like her could have something like that happen to her makes me sick. I'm not arguing that disabled, sick, or elderly women (or little girls, or other women who can't defend themselves) are any less worth protecting, any more deserving of abuse, or any less valuable/important. I can only hope that strong women can stand up for weak women. I can say that women who can fight back need to learn how. I am not saying that doing that will bring an end to rape, to abuse, to terror. A much larger shift obviously has to happen than just a few of us learning how to get out of being pinned or how to make someone let go if he's grabbing your hair. I can't post a guard by every woman's bed or wheelchair and every baby's crib (how I wish I could when I hear some of the things that happen!). I can ask for at least some of us to have the ability to be our own defenders and maybe even defend other women around us, like the two female bar staff who saved that woman from a date rapist by reading the signs and taking action. And I hope that my ability to defend myself will also help me be able to someday defend my children (I'm not a mother yet, but I expect I will be). So yes, Pony, you're completely right. It's not going to end rape and violence. There's a whole lot more that has to change about the world before that happens. But it may at least keep a few more of us alive and able to keep fighting for the rest. Pony, I see your point. We’re not in disagreement on that. The thought that my mother (who is helpless and in a hospice) or a woman like her could have something like that happen to her makes me sick. I’m not arguing that disabled, sick, or elderly women (or little girls, or other women who can’t defend themselves) are any less worth protecting, any more deserving of abuse, or any less valuable/important.

I can only hope that strong women can stand up for weak women. I can say that women who can fight back need to learn how. I am not saying that doing that will bring an end to rape, to abuse, to terror. A much larger shift obviously has to happen than just a few of us learning how to get out of being pinned or how to make someone let go if he’s grabbing your hair.

I can’t post a guard by every woman’s bed or wheelchair and every baby’s crib (how I wish I could when I hear some of the things that happen!). I can ask for at least some of us to have the ability to be our own defenders and maybe even defend other women around us, like the two female bar staff who saved that woman from a date rapist by reading the signs and taking action. And I hope that my ability to defend myself will also help me be able to someday defend my children (I’m not a mother yet, but I expect I will be).

So yes, Pony, you’re completely right. It’s not going to end rape and violence. There’s a whole lot more that has to change about the world before that happens. But it may at least keep a few more of us alive and able to keep fighting for the rest.

]]> By: mAndrea http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47432 mAndrea Wed, 28 Mar 2007 16:26:03 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47432 Apparently I am a cold unfeeling bitch. Because I see the upside in twenty years - when tens of thousands of women* who were violently exposed to the systematic misogyny so prevalent in our culture finally get ANGRY. *Women with guns. Apparently I am a cold unfeeling bitch. Because I see the upside in twenty years – when tens of thousands of women* who were violently exposed to the systematic misogyny so prevalent in our culture finally get ANGRY.

*Women with guns.

]]> By: Mar Iguana http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47289 Mar Iguana Wed, 28 Mar 2007 00:20:33 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/03/19/the-megalopatriarchy/#comment-47289 Sorry about the lame link above for the Clinton video. Maybe this one will work: http://www.opednews.com/articles/genera_rob_kall_070323_another_youtube_vide.htm Sorry about the lame link above for the Clinton video. Maybe this one will work:

http://www.opednews.com/articles/genera_rob_kall_070323_another_youtube_vide.htm

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