Comments on: I said who put all those things in your head http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/ Thu, 28 Aug 2008 01:34:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Healthist cheerleading at Hoyden About Town http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-116535 Healthist cheerleading at Hoyden About Town Sun, 27 Apr 2008 04:31:18 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-116535 [...] ‘n’ disability romanticists need to read this, at Twisty’s place. Twisty has a pile of sometimes scary and always downright nasty [...] […] ‘n’ disability romanticists need to read this, at Twisty’s place. Twisty has a pile of sometimes scary and always downright nasty […]

]]> By: amanda http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-79885 amanda Thu, 05 Jul 2007 19:50:40 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-79885 I love you. No really. My husband died at age 24 after having leukemia for a long time. He passed away last year. Throughout the treatment and after his death, people told me so much bullshit that I felt that I was drowning in a sea of saccharin. How about being fucking REAL for a change? I wrote a lot about the dumb shit people said at <a href="http://cancertalk.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">my old blog.</a> I'm managed to keep a tighter cap on my opinions recently through heavy usage of meds, drugs, and having a mild mental health issue. Keep on preaching the word so that people get used to the TRUTH. love, amanda I love you.

No really.

My husband died at age 24 after having leukemia for a long time. He passed away last year.

Throughout the treatment and after his death, people told me so much bullshit that I felt that I was drowning in a sea of saccharin.

How about being fucking REAL for a change?

I wrote a lot about the dumb shit people said at my old blog. I’m managed to keep a tighter cap on my opinions recently through heavy usage of meds, drugs, and having a mild mental health issue.

Keep on preaching the word so that people get used to the TRUTH.

love,
amanda

]]> By: That Girl http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-63139 That Girl Sat, 19 May 2007 01:32:17 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-63139 Just wait. A few years from now Oprah will have on her show a breast cancer survivor who has "discovered" all the things you said in this post and is "brave" enough to share it. Even more nauseating, each of the women interviewed will be compelled to add how "lucky" she is to have survived before she can tell you how bad it sucks. Just wait. A few years from now Oprah will have on her show a breast cancer survivor who has “discovered” all the things you said in this post and is “brave” enough to share it.
Even more nauseating, each of the women interviewed will be compelled to add how “lucky” she is to have survived before she can tell you how bad it sucks.

]]> By: Antoinette Niebieszczanski http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62476 Antoinette Niebieszczanski Wed, 16 May 2007 15:18:44 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62476 You make me feel small for ranting about inconsequential things. It's stupid self-indulgence and I need to just STFU already. You make me feel small for ranting about inconsequential things. It’s stupid self-indulgence and I need to just STFU already.

]]> By: kiki http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62462 kiki Wed, 16 May 2007 14:33:48 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62462 <i>Well, this caused me to emit a guffaw. </i> Me too. I didn't know what to say when the hospice nurse asked me what she had said. My mother appeared remarkably calm and so no one truly understood that she was in the throes of Weltschmerz. Behind her drug-induced placid visage, a terrible storm was raging. She hated and feared doctors but worried if she (or I being her loudmouth daughter) "misbehaved" they would not help her to survive or that they would leave her with unmanaged pain. She was a self proclaimed, "plain talkin, tough old broad" who in this time of vulnerability and suffering felt forced to pretend otherwise. I know she died a little death every time her oncologist patronizingly called her, "dear". You could see the anger in her eyes. When I read your post I could only think that she could have written it if she had the opportunity, courage and clarity that you possess. You need to write it because women like her cannot. IB(the fucking)P Well, this caused me to emit a guffaw.

Me too. I didn’t know what to say when the hospice nurse asked me what she had said. My mother appeared remarkably calm and so no one truly understood that she was in the throes of Weltschmerz. Behind her drug-induced placid visage, a terrible storm was raging. She hated and feared doctors but worried if she (or I being her loudmouth daughter) “misbehaved” they would not help her to survive or that they would leave her with unmanaged pain. She was a self proclaimed, “plain talkin, tough old broad” who in this time of vulnerability and suffering felt forced to pretend otherwise. I know she died a little death every time her oncologist patronizingly called her, “dear”. You could see the anger in her eyes. When I read your post I could only think that she could have written it if she had the opportunity, courage and clarity that you possess. You need to write it because women like her cannot. IB(the fucking)P

]]> By: therealUK http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62400 therealUK Wed, 16 May 2007 06:11:17 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62400 Being so ill is horrible, and then the expectation to be "positive" and "brave" ? Yeah, sod that. Being so ill is horrible, and then the expectation to be “positive” and “brave” ? Yeah, sod that.

]]> By: kate http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62395 kate Wed, 16 May 2007 05:27:38 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62395 I saw this post yesterday and didn't comment, I didn't know what to say. Yeny and so many others, including myself have said many times how important blog is. I don't or never knew anyone with cancer, my mother had it, but I as thousands of miles away and my consolation wasn't requested, I was informed after the 'cure'. Twisty, you have reached out to me, I wish I could offer equal or better yet, more, but I find myself falling short. All I have is my pathetic attempt to empathize. I wish I could rip out a piece of my heart and throw it to you and all you'd have to do was hold its warm throbbing mass and some magic power would make you feel better and all would be well. But this type and my limpid effort at expression of how I feel will have to do. I saw this post yesterday and didn’t comment, I didn’t know what to say. Yeny and so many others, including myself have said many times how important blog is.

I don’t or never knew anyone with cancer, my mother had it, but I as thousands of miles away and my consolation wasn’t requested, I was informed after the ‘cure’.

Twisty, you have reached out to me, I wish I could offer equal or better yet, more, but I find myself falling short. All I have is my pathetic attempt to empathize. I wish I could rip out a piece of my heart and throw it to you and all you’d have to do was hold its warm throbbing mass and some magic power would make you feel better and all would be well. But this type and my limpid effort at expression of how I feel will have to do.

]]> By: Tigs http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62375 Tigs Wed, 16 May 2007 04:02:10 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62375 I know what it is to be sad. My first comment got ate. Much love and admiration. I know what it is to be sad.

My first comment got ate. Much love and admiration.

]]> By: Twisty http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62308 Twisty Wed, 16 May 2007 00:36:38 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62308 "She turned to speak and I leaned in (as her voice had gotten weak)and she said, loudly, and clear as a bell, “sometimes you need to grab life by the short hairs and yell, “FUCK YOU”." Well, this caused me to emit a guffaw. “She turned to speak and I leaned in (as her voice had gotten weak)and she said, loudly, and clear as a bell, “sometimes you need to grab life by the short hairs and yell, “FUCK YOU”.”

Well, this caused me to emit a guffaw.

]]> By: edeaOnCrack http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62280 edeaOnCrack Tue, 15 May 2007 23:26:55 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/05/14/i-said-who-put-all-those-things-in-your-head/#comment-62280 The latest safe products list from the Environmental Working Group. Don't wash your hair with carcinogenic shampoo: http://www.cosmeticdatabase(dot)com/index.php?nothanks=1 The latest safe products list from the Environmental Working Group. Don’t wash your hair with carcinogenic shampoo:

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