Comments on: Plucky gal parlays terminal illness into book, movie deal http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/ Thu, 04 Dec 2008 20:47:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Cathy Koch http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-121348 Cathy Koch Wed, 02 Jul 2008 01:16:28 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-121348 Crazy, sexy cancer? Who the hell had that? Yeah, it's crazy, crazy sick, crazy expensive, crazy sickening, crazy debilitating, driving you crazy! This lady, yes, does have to wait and see - but what is sexy about that? She had a huge support group, obviously very good insurance, both her parents, her siblings, many friends, and money. She could afford the best, and she got the very best. What about those of us who are alone, on SSDI and get a small disability check every month? You get NO breaks because you have cancer, you still have to pay all the bills, very few breaks there! My so called family totally deserted me after I left the hospital, I've never heard another thing from my mother, brother or sister. As a matter of fact my mother told my sister to tell me she "wishes me all the best", some maternal instinct huh? I wanted nothing from them, maybe just a phone call every now and then, I got NOTHING! I went thru six months of IP chemo by myself, I had a few meals brought in, someone came to clean once, and one friend did 2 loads of laundry for me. Otherwise I did it all by myself. Anytime I asked for help I was told that I get too much from SSDI and didn't qualify for anything so tough shit you worked for 33 years and made good money - apparently it would have been better for me to have a bunch of kids, suck off the welfare system THEN i;d have gotten all the help I wanted. Can't get the drugs I need since I'm on Medicare - they're NOT necessary or approved (the antinausea meds that really worked were a mere $1700.00 a month, now that's sexy, oh I mean CRAZY). Give me a break and wake up and smell the coffee, if you've got money and good insurance you've got it made, otherwise you'll probably have to declare bankruptcy to get out from under all these bills (who knew chemo was so expensive). If god forbid I should have to go through this again I'll think twice because I can't afford it - nothing sexy about that huh ladies?! Just sad . . . Crazy, sexy cancer? Who the hell had that? Yeah, it’s crazy, crazy sick, crazy expensive, crazy sickening, crazy debilitating, driving you crazy! This lady, yes, does have to wait and see - but what is sexy about that? She had a huge support group, obviously very good insurance, both her parents, her siblings, many friends, and money. She could afford the best, and she got the very best. What about those of us who are alone, on SSDI and get a small disability check every month? You get NO breaks because you have cancer, you still have to pay all the bills, very few breaks there! My so called family totally deserted me after I left the hospital, I’ve never heard another thing from my mother, brother or sister. As a matter of fact my mother told my sister to tell me she “wishes me all the best”, some maternal instinct huh? I wanted nothing from them, maybe just a phone call every now and then, I got NOTHING! I went thru six months of IP chemo by myself, I had a few meals brought in, someone came to clean once, and one friend did 2 loads of laundry for me. Otherwise I did it all by myself. Anytime I asked for help I was told that I get too much from SSDI and didn’t qualify for anything so tough shit you worked for 33 years and made good money - apparently it would have been better for me to have a bunch of kids, suck off the welfare system THEN i;d have gotten all the help I wanted. Can’t get the drugs I need since I’m on Medicare - they’re NOT necessary or approved (the antinausea meds that really worked were a mere $1700.00 a month, now that’s sexy, oh I mean CRAZY). Give me a break and wake up and smell the coffee, if you’ve got money and good insurance you’ve got it made, otherwise you’ll probably have to declare bankruptcy to get out from under all these bills (who knew chemo was so expensive). If god forbid I should have to go through this again I’ll think twice because I can’t afford it - nothing sexy about that huh ladies?! Just sad . . .

]]> By: Ines http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-114119 Ines Fri, 11 Apr 2008 17:19:19 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-114119 Agree to all. I hate to repeat already said ideas, but I do have a question here: did she find herself sexy while she was on this crazy, sexy journey? (everything nowadays is supposed to be a journey to self-love and a progress in a better path and an illuminating experience). Did she see herself sexy, as in OH God I'd fuck myself if I wasn't myself ALREADY, LOL when she was (I'm taking examples from all you posters here)vomiting/losing all her hair/having needles injected into her nipples/having her breasts cut off or any other life-changing (damn right), illuminating, cheery, positive (yeah, because being blue JUST BECAUSE of cancer, you know, this minor illness, is such a pain in the ass so please try harder and smile your face off)? Thanks to everyone here. My grandmother, victim of the patriarchy, got cancer because she was taking DIET PILLS. diet pills, people. And my other grandmother had her left breast cut off. Now, dear Writerlet Who's Still Alive and Has Both Tits, how's that for a Crazy Sexy Experience? Agree to all. I hate to repeat already said ideas, but I do have a question here: did she find herself sexy while she was on this crazy, sexy journey? (everything nowadays is supposed to be a journey to self-love and a progress in a better path and an illuminating experience). Did she see herself sexy, as in OH God I’d fuck myself if I wasn’t myself ALREADY, LOL when she was (I’m taking examples from all you posters here)vomiting/losing all her hair/having needles injected into her nipples/having her breasts cut off or any other life-changing (damn right), illuminating, cheery, positive (yeah, because being blue JUST BECAUSE of cancer, you know, this minor illness, is such a pain in the ass so please try harder and smile your face off)?
Thanks to everyone here. My grandmother, victim of the patriarchy, got cancer because she was taking DIET PILLS. diet pills, people. And my other grandmother had her left breast cut off. Now, dear Writerlet Who’s Still Alive and Has Both Tits, how’s that for a Crazy Sexy Experience?

]]> By: Ann http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-92934 Ann Sat, 10 Nov 2007 15:30:00 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-92934 Dear Twisty, I stumbled across this awful Crazy Sexy business at my local bookshop the other day, wretched, and then immediately wondered: OH MAN, I WONDER WHAT TWISTY WOULD SAY ABOUT THIS! So I searched the title at your site and was SO pleased to find your post and the attending string of comments. I feel much better now. Seriously, though. What a pile of shit and garbage. Yours, Ann Dear Twisty,

I stumbled across this awful Crazy Sexy business at my local bookshop the other day, wretched, and then immediately wondered: OH MAN, I WONDER WHAT TWISTY WOULD SAY ABOUT THIS! So I searched the title at your site and was SO pleased to find your post and the attending string of comments. I feel much better now.

Seriously, though. What a pile of shit and garbage.

Yours,

Ann

]]> By: Lily http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-86847 Lily Fri, 31 Aug 2007 16:44:43 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-86847 Has anyone watched the movie, read the book. Got your titties all in a twist that you can't even research deeper before spouting off. Really, you want to be taken seriously, look at both sides instead of steaming off before you know what you are talking about. We all have had, have, or have people that are striken with a dis-ease, and it sucks, we know that. Why try to take someone down who is doing her own way, since the doctors told her she had no options and to basically just "wait." Good that someone didn't let the disease take them over completely, and tried, that's all, tried. We're not glorifying the disease, just the will, live, or die, to go on. Has anyone watched the movie, read the book. Got your titties all in a twist that you can’t even research deeper before spouting off. Really, you want to be taken seriously, look at both sides instead of steaming off before you know what you are talking about.

We all have had, have, or have people that are striken with a dis-ease, and it sucks, we know that. Why try to take someone down who is doing her own way, since the doctors told her she had no options and to basically just “wait.”

Good that someone didn’t let the disease take them over completely, and tried, that’s all, tried. We’re not glorifying the disease, just the will, live, or die, to go on.

]]> By: laurie http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-85419 laurie Sun, 19 Aug 2007 01:25:44 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-85419 I am sexy DESPITE cancer not because of it. Cancer is not some kind of self-improvement program and I get pissed beyond words when I hear or read, "Cancer is the best thing that ever happened to me," or even, "everything happens for a reason." I have a very good life and I will fight to keep on living but cancer is a horror and it's treatment is degrading and devastating. I am sexy DESPITE cancer not because of it. Cancer is not some kind of self-improvement program and I get pissed beyond words when I hear or read, “Cancer is the best thing that ever happened to me,” or even, “everything happens for a reason.”
I have a very good life and I will fight to keep on living but cancer is a horror and it’s treatment is degrading and devastating.

]]> By: Nancy http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-85219 Nancy Fri, 17 Aug 2007 20:03:03 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-85219 Now there's a Crazy! Sexy! blog: "Here’s the deal, cancer is a just a silly metaphor, like it or not, it’s in each of our lives in some way. For me it’s tumors for you it may be a bad job, your weight or a dead end relationship etc, etc. It’s spooky but it doesn't have to be taboo. It’s just life, so we have to wake up to it! Some skeptics have asked “what’s so sexy about cancer lady?” My response: the women who have it! We are crazy, sexy, whole, loving, surviving, delicious women, so get out of our way! Granted, it's not always easy to be positive but more often it's a pain in the butt to be blue." I think I'm having a nausea flashback...anyone seen my compazine? Now there’s a Crazy! Sexy! blog:

“Here’s the deal, cancer is a just a silly metaphor, like it or not, it’s in each of our lives in some way. For me it’s tumors for you it may be a bad job, your weight or a dead end relationship etc, etc. It’s spooky but it doesn’t have to be taboo. It’s just life, so we have to wake up to it! Some skeptics have asked “what’s so sexy about cancer lady?” My response: the women who have it! We are crazy, sexy, whole, loving, surviving, delicious women, so get out of our way! Granted, it’s not always easy to be positive but more often it’s a pain in the butt to be blue.”

I think I’m having a nausea flashback…anyone seen my compazine?

]]> By: Twisty http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-85090 Twisty Thu, 16 Aug 2007 22:34:16 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-85090 "At least it is acknowledged that women get cancer" Women only get <em>breast</em> cancer. Many more women die of lung cancer, even so. “At least it is acknowledged that women get cancer”

Women only get breast cancer. Many more women die of lung cancer, even so.

]]> By: kiki http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-85086 kiki Thu, 16 Aug 2007 21:55:27 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-85086 At least it is acknowledged that women get cancer. My sister's partner had a heart attack a couple of weeks ago and it took the docs forever to diagnose, you know, cause women don't have heart attacks. At least it is acknowledged that women get cancer. My sister’s partner had a heart attack a couple of weeks ago and it took the docs forever to diagnose, you know, cause women don’t have heart attacks.

]]> By: dr.sue http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-85025 dr.sue Thu, 16 Aug 2007 14:19:29 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-85025 This seems to me to be related to the admonishments by Nice Guys that women should just stand up to our oppressive bosses/abusive boyfriends/street or Internet harassers. Because the problem isn't out there, it's in us, in our weakness and fear and inability to a)reason our way through a double-bind, and b)push back effectively. That effectively lets the patriarchy (here, in the form of a supposedly benign and competent medical care system) off the hook. We are all going to die, and it's not modern medicine's fault that there's no way around that. But our corporatized medical culture markets itself as omniscient and omnipotent, when too often what they really do is bluff their way through a series of painful interventions that women are made to feel guilty for declining--and when they don't work, it's because the woman wasn't smart or strong or spunky enough to make them work. Blech. Having said that, there really is evidence that focused meditation and guided imagery can have some effect, in some cases, on some tumors and blood issues. I have worked with this and the nice thing is that nearly everyone who tries them ends up feeling better, even if there are no measurable physical benefits--and sometimes there are. But it's a huge leap to go from that to saying that if you get worse it's because your attitude wasn't positive enough. We don't understand why some methods work for some people and not others. I can tell you, though, that it has nothing to do with perkiness. This seems to me to be related to the admonishments by Nice Guys that women should just stand up to our oppressive bosses/abusive boyfriends/street or Internet harassers. Because the problem isn’t out there, it’s in us, in our weakness and fear and inability to a)reason our way through a double-bind, and b)push back effectively. That effectively lets the patriarchy (here, in the form of a supposedly benign and competent medical care system) off the hook.

We are all going to die, and it’s not modern medicine’s fault that there’s no way around that. But our corporatized medical culture markets itself as omniscient and omnipotent, when too often what they really do is bluff their way through a series of painful interventions that women are made to feel guilty for declining–and when they don’t work, it’s because the woman wasn’t smart or strong or spunky enough to make them work. Blech.

Having said that, there really is evidence that focused meditation and guided imagery can have some effect, in some cases, on some tumors and blood issues. I have worked with this and the nice thing is that nearly everyone who tries them ends up feeling better, even if there are no measurable physical benefits–and sometimes there are. But it’s a huge leap to go from that to saying that if you get worse it’s because your attitude wasn’t positive enough. We don’t understand why some methods work for some people and not others. I can tell you, though, that it has nothing to do with perkiness.

]]> By: nyx http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-84936 nyx Wed, 15 Aug 2007 17:55:05 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2007/08/12/1276/#comment-84936 It's when you start reading more and more stories like this www.msnbc.msn.con/id/20201807 that you realize what it's all about. Blame the survovor. Yes, in the neo-con kristianity kult when all the options in the worls drain your saving, your body and possibly your life-- fingers can be waved at you that you weren't a true believer, better insurance wouldn't have saved you. I mean look at this woman crazy sexy ready to die for hey!zues cancer glorifiacation. And I bet she still finds time for anal sex with her loving husband too! So remember don't blame the disease and you really don't need better beni's, it's all about crazy, sexy, cool! It’s when you start reading more and more stories like this www.msnbc.msn.con/id/20201807
that you realize what it’s all about. Blame the survovor. Yes, in the neo-con kristianity kult when all the options in the worls drain your saving, your body and possibly your life– fingers can be waved at you that you weren’t a true believer, better insurance wouldn’t have saved you.
I mean look at this woman crazy sexy ready to die for hey!zues cancer glorifiacation. And I bet she still finds time for anal sex with her loving husband too!

So remember don’t blame the disease and you really don’t need better beni’s, it’s all about crazy, sexy, cool!

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