Comments on: How cheap is your love? http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 08:19:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: aiosmith http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-166269 aiosmith Mon, 05 Jul 2010 02:39:01 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-166269 It’s funny—pajama grams and Vermont teddy bears are both advertised on the radio extensively, and in one ad the Vermont teddy bear peeps say that all women really want these bears, even if you don’t expect them to (and, might I infer, the women don’t consciously know how much they love those bears either? Perhaps it’s programmed in that extra X chromosome and only recognized upon activation). Upon hearing this ad the week before Valentine’s day, I turned to my partner and said, “I don’t want one of those bears. My reaction to one would be exactly what you expect.” It’s not endearing that the bear has a pencil in its hand and maybe some glasses to indicate that it’s so like me. Thanks, baby. It’s so romantic that you can reduce my personality to two accessories on this very special made-up holiday. What the eff is a grown, professional woman to do with a Stepford teddy bear or a hat box? I’m neither a child nor an old lady, and my sweaty baseball caps are just fine without a box, thank you. It’s funny—pajama grams and Vermont teddy bears are both advertised on the radio extensively, and in one ad the Vermont teddy bear peeps say that all women really want these bears, even if you don’t expect them to (and, might I infer, the women don’t consciously know how much they love those bears either? Perhaps it’s programmed in that extra X chromosome and only recognized upon activation). Upon hearing this ad the week before Valentine’s day, I turned to my partner and said, “I don’t want one of those bears. My reaction to one would be exactly what you expect.” It’s not endearing that the bear has a pencil in its hand and maybe some glasses to indicate that it’s so like me. Thanks, baby. It’s so romantic that you can reduce my personality to two accessories on this very special made-up holiday.

What the eff is a grown, professional woman to do with a Stepford teddy bear or a hat box? I’m neither a child nor an old lady, and my sweaty baseball caps are just fine without a box, thank you.

]]> By: Shweta http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-111609 Shweta Wed, 26 Mar 2008 21:56:52 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-111609 Office Supplies are pretty boring, but what about organization, productivity, office humor and annoying your coworkers? http://blog.officenmore.com Office Supplies are pretty boring, but what about organization, productivity, office humor and annoying your coworkers? http://blog.officenmore.com

]]> By: HB http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-108411 HB Fri, 07 Mar 2008 20:38:33 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-108411 It’s funny—pajama grams and Vermont teddy bears are both advertised on the radio extensively, and in one ad the Vermont teddy bear peeps say that all women really want these bears, even if you don’t expect them to (and, might I infer, the women don’t consciously know how much they love those bears either? Perhaps it’s programmed in that extra X chromosome and only recognized upon activation). Upon hearing this ad the week before Valentine’s day, I turned to my partner and said, “I don’t want one of those bears. My reaction to one would be exactly what you expect.” It’s not endearing that the bear has a pencil in its hand and maybe some glasses to indicate that it’s so like me. Thanks, baby. It’s so romantic that you can reduce my personality to two accessories on this very special made-up holiday. What the eff is a grown, professional woman to do with a Stepford teddy bear or a hat box? I’m neither a child nor an old lady, and my sweaty baseball caps are just fine without a box, thank you. It’s funny—pajama grams and Vermont teddy bears are both advertised on the radio extensively, and in one ad the Vermont teddy bear peeps say that all women really want these bears, even if you don’t expect them to (and, might I infer, the women don’t consciously know how much they love those bears either? Perhaps it’s programmed in that extra X chromosome and only recognized upon activation). Upon hearing this ad the week before Valentine’s day, I turned to my partner and said, “I don’t want one of those bears. My reaction to one would be exactly what you expect.” It’s not endearing that the bear has a pencil in its hand and maybe some glasses to indicate that it’s so like me. Thanks, baby. It’s so romantic that you can reduce my personality to two accessories on this very special made-up holiday.

What the eff is a grown, professional woman to do with a Stepford teddy bear or a hat box? I’m neither a child nor an old lady, and my sweaty baseball caps are just fine without a box, thank you.

]]> By: CoolAunt http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-108087 CoolAunt Wed, 05 Mar 2008 17:10:02 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-108087 Until yesterday, I was without Internet access at home for several months. That left me alone to endure those stupid-ass pajama ads without fellow blamers to validate and assure me that they were indeed as sickening as I perceived them to be. (Yes, you're supposed to feel sorry for me, now. wink) To add insult to injury, not only were the ads pervy, I don't much care for the statement-as-fact that what I and all other women desire and would most like to receive as gifts are pajamas, sexy or otherwise. It's small when you look at the big picture but it's still another example of how easily women's choices are denied. About giving stuffed animals as gifts to women, it's a problem. Over the years, I've been given more than a few. (Gawd, I hope that's not somehow a reflection of me. eek) The toy givers mean well so I don't want to seem ungrateful (even though I have to feign gratitude at receiving a pink and white striped tiger that plays half a minute of "Wild Thing" through a speaker that must have been made from an old, used and discarded, aluminum pot pie tin at a volume to wake the dead) nor do I want to hurt their feelings. I mean, they did go to the trouble of getting out and driving to a retail outlet to select the pink and white fluffy product from hel, so there was some effort to please put forth. But the oohs and aaahs and thank yous, what the hell am I supposed to do with the damned stuffed toys? Should I display them? Where? For how long? Then am I to store them along with other, much more meaningful and compact keepsakes, such as the funniest greeting cards and photographs? Or is it okay to give them to Goodwill or to the kids I know after an undisclosed appropriate duration of time? After years of not knowing what to do with them, I finally decided only weeks ago that a gift received shouldn't become a burden to keep and I boxed them up to go to charity. However, I ended up giving them to the girls who live downstairs as a way to stop their insanely noisy game of soccer-on-the-stairs without having to ask them to cut it out and therefore risk pissing them or their mother off. Both problems now solved. Now, how to politely stop gift-givers from replenishing the stuffed animal supply? Until yesterday, I was without Internet access at home for several months. That left me alone to endure those stupid-ass pajama ads without fellow blamers to validate and assure me that they were indeed as sickening as I perceived them to be. (Yes, you’re supposed to feel sorry for me, now. wink) To add insult to injury, not only were the ads pervy, I don’t much care for the statement-as-fact that what I and all other women desire and would most like to receive as gifts are pajamas, sexy or otherwise. It’s small when you look at the big picture but it’s still another example of how easily women’s choices are denied.

About giving stuffed animals as gifts to women, it’s a problem. Over the years, I’ve been given more than a few. (Gawd, I hope that’s not somehow a reflection of me. eek) The toy givers mean well so I don’t want to seem ungrateful (even though I have to feign gratitude at receiving a pink and white striped tiger that plays half a minute of “Wild Thing” through a speaker that must have been made from an old, used and discarded, aluminum pot pie tin at a volume to wake the dead) nor do I want to hurt their feelings. I mean, they did go to the trouble of getting out and driving to a retail outlet to select the pink and white fluffy product from hel, so there was some effort to please put forth. But the oohs and aaahs and thank yous, what the hell am I supposed to do with the damned stuffed toys? Should I display them? Where? For how long? Then am I to store them along with other, much more meaningful and compact keepsakes, such as the funniest greeting cards and photographs? Or is it okay to give them to Goodwill or to the kids I know after an undisclosed appropriate duration of time?

After years of not knowing what to do with them, I finally decided only weeks ago that a gift received shouldn’t become a burden to keep and I boxed them up to go to charity. However, I ended up giving them to the girls who live downstairs as a way to stop their insanely noisy game of soccer-on-the-stairs without having to ask them to cut it out and therefore risk pissing them or their mother off. Both problems now solved.

Now, how to politely stop gift-givers from replenishing the stuffed animal supply?

]]> By: Gary Ray http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105913 Gary Ray Thu, 21 Feb 2008 22:03:21 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105913 I am a very strong feminist, radical progressive, and a strong advocate for women’s rights. My darling and I have been together for 29 years and our love is as strong as ever. She has been president of the local NOW chapter wherever we have lived. We celebrate Valentines Day and have for 29 years. For us it is day to celebrate romance. We don’t go out. One of us (usually me) will come up with a fancy homemade romantic dinner, always with a home made chocolate wonderful dissert. We make up a fancy menu and give each other humorous cards. We have saved every card we have sent each other and put them out as decoration and to remember where we were when we sent them. We don’t spend much money but just time enjoying each other and celebrating another year together. Call me romantic, I like a day to celebrate love. Gary Ray I am a very strong feminist, radical progressive, and a strong advocate for women’s rights. My darling and I have been together for 29 years and our love is as strong as ever. She has been president of the local NOW chapter wherever we have lived.

We celebrate Valentines Day and have for 29 years. For us it is day to celebrate romance. We don’t go out. One of us (usually me) will come up with a fancy homemade romantic dinner, always with a home made chocolate wonderful dissert. We make up a fancy menu and give each other humorous cards. We have saved every card we have sent each other and put them out as decoration and to remember where we were when we sent them.

We don’t spend much money but just time enjoying each other and celebrating another year together.

Call me romantic, I like a day to celebrate love.

Gary Ray

]]> By: the neoskeptic http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105871 the neoskeptic Thu, 21 Feb 2008 15:30:41 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105871 holy shit, what righteous feminist vitriol! stinging and to the point, you are quite a force. i think i'm in love. holy shit, what righteous feminist vitriol! stinging and to the point, you are quite a force. i think i’m in love.

]]> By: Mar Iguana http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105550 Mar Iguana Wed, 20 Feb 2008 02:01:16 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105550 Late breaking news. Late breaking news.

]]> By: Gary http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105416 Gary Tue, 19 Feb 2008 09:32:16 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105416 You just spoilt the show for the guys. VD is a "pussygrab", what a word. To all the gals reading this, the truth hurts and the absolute truth hurts absolutely. Still a fun post, thanks :) You just spoilt the show for the guys. VD is a “pussygrab”, what a word.

To all the gals reading this, the truth hurts and the absolute truth hurts absolutely.

Still a fun post, thanks :)

]]> By: run-on sentences » Blog Archive » OM NOM NOM NOM. http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105321 run-on sentences » Blog Archive » OM NOM NOM NOM. Tue, 19 Feb 2008 00:16:08 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105321 [...] catching up with my neglected OPML file, I see that several of my favorite blogs all made posts about Valentine’s Day, which, even though I do sorta kinda have an ersatz [...] [...] catching up with my neglected OPML file, I see that several of my favorite blogs all made posts about Valentine’s Day, which, even though I do sorta kinda have an ersatz [...]

]]> By: Shae’s Place » Blog Archive » My Love Was Never For Sale http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105290 Shae’s Place » Blog Archive » My Love Was Never For Sale Mon, 18 Feb 2008 23:00:18 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/02/12/how-cheap-is-your-love/#comment-105290 [...] on these pages before, expressed her disdain for Valentine’s Day recently with a post titled How Cheap Is Your Love. She points out the notoriously tacky lingerie, the expectation that men will trade gifts for sex, [...] [...] on these pages before, expressed her disdain for Valentine’s Day recently with a post titled How Cheap Is Your Love. She points out the notoriously tacky lingerie, the expectation that men will trade gifts for sex, [...]

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