Comments on: The spinster and the bag http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 11:41:36 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: PhoenixRising http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-126538 PhoenixRising Tue, 19 Aug 2008 03:30:03 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-126538 Mrs Phoenix reports: Yeah, the bag and the baby ain't nothing to brag about. She finds that men leave their under-14 children in the pool when she's swimming her laps, despite the requirement that adult supervision be provided to such children. The entitlement to her attention, as the non-penis-bearing adult present in a pool full of men, makes them magically safe from drowning. My fave was the night she came home from the pool spitting nails because some dude told his 7 year old daughter to ask Mrs Phoenix for help if she needed anything! Without asking HER first! Mrs Phoenix reports: Yeah, the bag and the baby ain’t nothing to brag about. She finds that men leave their under-14 children in the pool when she’s swimming her laps, despite the requirement that adult supervision be provided to such children.

The entitlement to her attention, as the non-penis-bearing adult present in a pool full of men, makes them magically safe from drowning.

My fave was the night she came home from the pool spitting nails because some dude told his 7 year old daughter to ask Mrs Phoenix for help if she needed anything! Without asking HER first!

]]> By: Twisty http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-126326 Twisty Sun, 17 Aug 2008 01:17:50 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-126326 Oh, it's you. Ha! Oh, it’s you. Ha!

]]> By: The Hedonistic Pleasureseeker http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-126246 The Hedonistic Pleasureseeker Sat, 16 Aug 2008 13:46:46 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-126246 His crime was in not waiting for Twisty to do the eyebrow dance with the nod flourish, signaling to him that she was one of the tribe and that she was covering for him. Also, I don't know 'bout anyone else, but when I read "Don’t never watch no dude’s bag" I thought "balls." Maybe it's me. His crime was in not waiting for Twisty to do the eyebrow dance with the nod flourish, signaling to him that she was one of the tribe and that she was covering for him.

Also, I don’t know ’bout anyone else, but when I read “Don’t never watch no dude’s bag” I thought “balls.” Maybe it’s me.

]]> By: butterflywings http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-126087 butterflywings Thu, 14 Aug 2008 21:53:41 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-126087 Lauren O, hmmmm yeah the restroom scenario you describe is one thing - it doesn't take 2 minutes to go into the stall and it's within earshot, with only women around. Dumping a baby on some random stranger in a coffee shop on the other hand...no. I'm sorry, I just don't understand why anyone would leave their baby with a stranger. Lauren O, hmmmm yeah the restroom scenario you describe is one thing – it doesn’t take 2 minutes to go into the stall and it’s within earshot, with only women around. Dumping a baby on some random stranger in a coffee shop on the other hand…no. I’m sorry, I just don’t understand why anyone would leave their baby with a stranger.

]]> By: Lauren O http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-126002 Lauren O Thu, 14 Aug 2008 07:56:17 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-126002 I don't know what this adds to the conversation, but the only times I have been asked to watch a baby were in public restrooms when a mother couldn't fit a stroller in the stall with her, and that didn't seem an unreasonable request to me. I don’t know what this adds to the conversation, but the only times I have been asked to watch a baby were in public restrooms when a mother couldn’t fit a stroller in the stall with her, and that didn’t seem an unreasonable request to me.

]]> By: butterflywings http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-125926 butterflywings Wed, 13 Aug 2008 19:00:33 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-125926 I get this a lot too, and asked for directions, you name it. I have a round trusting face, I guess. Yah, it's the entitlement, stupid. Would you mind watching my bag? I'll be *time*. Sure, no problem. Thanks very much. is fine. Not waiting for an answer - is NOT OK. And the baby thing? WRONG. I ALWAYS got asked to mind babies as a teenage girl, I didn't even know how to, didn't even LIKE babies. That said, as a student I had to drag a very heavy bag home by train, changed trains with a long wait, decided to get coffee, realised I had no cash on me. I asked a nice-looking middle-aged lady to keep an eye on my bag while I looked for an ATM - not specifying a time as I had no clue where an ATM might be, what I said was "I'll be about five minutes" - and she said OK, on my return (about ten minutes later, but I wasn't to know I would have to trek through a mall) she berated me for being so long saying her train was leaving soon. Well yeah she should have said she couldn't watch it then! I mean - I didn't mean five minutes LITERALLY - how the hell can you know that - she didn't have to time me with a stopwatch! Jeez! I get this a lot too, and asked for directions, you name it. I have a round trusting face, I guess.

Yah, it’s the entitlement, stupid.

Would you mind watching my bag? I’ll be *time*.
Sure, no problem.
Thanks very much.

is fine.
Not waiting for an answer – is NOT OK.

And the baby thing? WRONG. I ALWAYS got asked to mind babies as a teenage girl, I didn’t even know how to, didn’t even LIKE babies.

That said, as a student I had to drag a very heavy bag home by train, changed trains with a long wait, decided to get coffee, realised I had no cash on me. I asked a nice-looking middle-aged lady to keep an eye on my bag while I looked for an ATM – not specifying a time as I had no clue where an ATM might be, what I said was “I’ll be about five minutes” – and she said OK, on my return (about ten minutes later, but I wasn’t to know I would have to trek through a mall) she berated me for being so long saying her train was leaving soon. Well yeah she should have said she couldn’t watch it then!

I mean – I didn’t mean five minutes LITERALLY – how the hell can you know that – she didn’t have to time me with a stopwatch! Jeez!

]]> By: Karen http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-125905 Karen Wed, 13 Aug 2008 13:30:49 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-125905 If you like kids at all, here's a thought: take the kid out of the baby seat. Cuddle it. Play with it. Give it food. Make it like you. Don't give it back to the lame sperm donor. What will he do then? Will probably work well for any infant up to the age of 10 months, and older if the child and man are not bonded much. Alternate scenario: give it coffee or chocolate with extra sugar. Then, give it back. I guess that would be kind of mean to the kid though. If you like kids at all, here’s a thought: take the kid out of the baby seat. Cuddle it. Play with it. Give it food. Make it like you. Don’t give it back to the lame sperm donor. What will he do then?

Will probably work well for any infant up to the age of 10 months, and older if the child and man are not bonded much.

Alternate scenario: give it coffee or chocolate with extra sugar. Then, give it back. I guess that would be kind of mean to the kid though.

]]> By: Robin http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-125794 Robin Tue, 12 Aug 2008 15:15:22 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-125794 As Nancy says: JUST SAY NO women! Say no to every request from every man, until you get really good at it. Women all over American can JUST SAY NO to all male requests for a day! But if a woman asks for help watching a bag, I'll always help her. Actually, I have such a deadly serious lesbian face, that men rarely ask me anything. They're afraid I'm going to smash 'em one. It's easy "NO NO NO" As Nancy says: JUST SAY NO women! Say no to every request from every man, until you get really good at it. Women all over American can JUST SAY NO to all male requests for a day!

But if a woman asks for help watching a bag, I’ll always help her. Actually, I have such a deadly serious lesbian face, that men rarely ask me anything. They’re afraid I’m going to smash ‘em one.

It’s easy “NO NO NO”

]]> By: rosc http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-125699 rosc Mon, 11 Aug 2008 19:05:34 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-125699 Steal the bag, and the kid, and sell it :P Steal the bag, and the kid, and sell it :P

]]> By: Sylvanite http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-125617 Sylvanite Sun, 10 Aug 2008 22:26:48 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/08/07/the-spinster-and-the-bag/#comment-125617 I'd suggest reminding people that in the post 9/11 world, we aren't supposed to be leaving our bags with strangers cuz of terrorism and all, but you never know when a humorless authority figure might take "Well, ya know, I could be a terrorist" literally. I’d suggest reminding people that in the post 9/11 world, we aren’t supposed to be leaving our bags with strangers cuz of terrorism and all, but you never know when a humorless authority figure might take “Well, ya know, I could be a terrorist” literally.

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