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By: Re-post: How to explain ‘desire’? « blue milk

Re-post: How to explain ‘desire’? « blue milk — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 04:52:26 +0000

[...] is a fascinating discussion over at I Blame the Patriarchy about motherhood and radical feminism. All the usual tensions are raised (and they are tense) but [...]

By: Say WHAT now?! « Raising My Boychick

Say WHAT now?! « Raising My Boychick — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 06:52:58 +0000

[...] sums up the double standard of parenting, and it’s one word that makes radfem instructions to avoid procreation to avoid perpetuating patriarchy seem to make sense. It’s one word that if changed could change the world; it’s one word [...]

By: Autonomous1

Autonomous1 — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 21:07:45 +0000

I am an American mother who lives with both my legzl husbsnd and fzther of my son and my lover (a different, unrelated man). This is one first honest step out of the nuclear family prison. You don’t throw people away just because they are not your dream lover. The family just got bigger. We tried the normal way, but poverty was the mother of this invention. I think more people would live like us if they were honest. Having money can disguise real problems and keep people from facing teach other.

By: Geneva Stewart

Geneva Stewart — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 18:10:22 +0000

Very interesting discussion here! I respect All of the opinions; here is my own:

In my youth, long before the first appearance of my menses at 20 years old, I decided to never traumatize my body with the child-birthing process or subject myself to the pain my Mother lived through in maintaining the nuclear family.

Once I became a responsible adult and realized that being born is a curse [inevitable death], there was no turning back. I am now 50 years old and I have never felt my so- called “biological clock” or any other sentiment or emotion that caused me to change my mind. Further, I do not judge those who have children – IT WAS THEIR CHOICE, one that is equally valid as my own. We all do that which we each decide is more meaningful for our respective lives.

By: Jezebella

Jezebella — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 02:50:51 +0000

Artists Judy Chicago and Miriam Schapiro, when they were minimalists, were known for their use of “central core” imagery, their alternative to phallic imagery. It’s not as dead-white-guy-Greek, but I find the term useful.

I’m also fond of using the term “germinal” where others might call an idea “seminal.”

YMMV.

By: Dilly

Dilly — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 01:36:37 +0000

I don’t know where I’d be without this blog.

Twisty, have you tried Word Fugitives yet? I’m tickled by the idea of seeing this in print. By the way, in trying to remember the columnist’s name (Barbara Wallraff), I checked out the WF website and found this patriarchy-inspired query (#2 on the Most Wanted list):

From: Piya Kochhar
New York, N.Y.
Posted: 7 Dec 99
Is there a female version of the term “phallic symbol”? It seems that we often refer to things that resemble the male anatomy as “phallic,” but there doesn’t appear to be a word for things that resemble the female anatomy.

By: How to explain ‘desire’? « blue milk

How to explain ‘desire’? « blue milk — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 08:59:24 +0000

[...] 6, 2009 by blue milk There is a fascinating discussion over at I Blame the Patriarchy about motherhood and radical feminism. All the usual tensions are raised (and they are tense) but [...]

By: Dropping labels « Learning to Say Yes

Dropping labels « Learning to Say Yes — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 22:40:35 +0000

[...] then I ran around and found this post about how mothers and blorts (women who are childless) should unite and fight patriarchy. And this [...]

By: Jezebella

Jezebella — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 05:08:41 +0000

Yes, sure, it’s “privilege” to have access to Planned Parenthood, if that’s what you want to call getting to choose between birth control and groceries, and living without health insurance, as I did for most of my teens, all of my 20s, and part of my 30s. It’s hardly, and I quote, “a HUGE economic privilege” to be a woman without children. It’s fucking ABSURD to paint a picture of all blorts as enormously privileged by the mere fact of our childlessness. THAT was my point.

You entirely missed the point, Zofia, if you didn’t happen to read what I was responding to. Women without children are NOT rolling in piles of cash because we don’t have kids. A lot of us don’t have kids because we couldn’t afford to. In fact, many women who terminate pregnancies do so because the economic burden of parenthood would be impossible. I didn’t feel particularly privileged when I had to make that choice, I tell you whut.

By: Zofia

Zofia — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 03:16:09 +0000

Thanks to Planned Parenthood, I have always had access to contraception…

And you don’t think that’s privilege? From PP:

“Every year, nearly 80 million unintended pregnancies occur. An estimated 150 million women in developing countries say they want to plan their families but are not using contraception. 350 million women lack access to birth control.”

In the US. “Planned Parenthood’s more than 880 health centers nationwide are helping to meet the growing need for affordable health care, yet more than 17 million women still need publicly funded family planning services.”