Regular blamers have an iron grip on the notion that men hate women, but have been, on occasion, reluctant to accept the categorization of certain of my posts under the banner “Women Hate You.” Supposedly the concept is divisive or anti-woman or something.
Faugh, I say. Plenty of women do hate you, vehemently, and for the same reasons that men do, with a few extra variations on the theme. Universal sisterhood is, at least at present, a feminist fantasy. Why? Because women internalize and normalize the same woman-hating messages that men do; patriarchy would collapse under the weight of its own absurdity otherwise.
To the standard dude-justifications for misogyny — that women are sub-human mutants, that women (and the womanesque) are exclusively the constituents of a reviled sex class, that women are required to do femininity but either do it too well or not well enough, that women are frail, stupid, shallow, conniving, and hysterical — women add self-loathing, femi-professional jealousy (“Don’t hate me because I’m beautiful!”), femi-competetive judgmentalism (“Michelle’s dress was hideous” *), and the compulsion to police other women’s behavior on behalf of the oppressive system in which they have invested their entire identities.
Into this last category I place the following dainty morsel of girl-on-girl antifeminist violence. According to court documents, Albuquerque nurse practitioner and patriarchy foot soldier Sylvia Olono removed a patient’s IUD. This wouldn’t be no big whoop, except that she omitted to enquire first whether the patient was actually in the mood for an IUD removal (she wasn’t). Having made her executive decision, Olono then said “oops!” and embarked on an anti-abortion oratory, bloviating to the patient that she (Olono) is personally “against” IUDs because “they are a type of abortion”; therefore this unscheduled departure from her (the patient’s) birth control regimen was “a good thing.” Olono, bucking for extra credit in the Uteruses Belong To Jesus League, then refused to insert a new IUD.
Apparently Olono pulls this woman-hating stunt so frequently that it’s a joke around the water cooler. Quoth Olono, “Everyone in the office always laughs and tells me I pull these out on purpose because I am against them, but it’s not true, they accidentally come out when I tug.”
Bwa ha ha, there goes that zany Sylvia again, yanking out some poor schlub’s IUD and refusing to insert a new one! What a howler! Anyone see “Dancing With The Stars” last night?
The patient — one can only imagine the sublime state of flamin’ red incredulity into which she was thrust at the conclusion of this assault-cum-lecture — is suing Olono and Presbyterian Health Services Rio Rancho Family Health Center for damages resulting from battery, constitutional violations, and negligence.
* Actual remark overheard by me on the subject of Michelle Obama’s inauguration-wear. I also heard, delivered in a similar tone of disdain, critical analyses of Obama’s gloves, shoes, posture, height, and failure to sufficiently emulate dainty presidential trophy wife Jackie Kennedy.