Comments on: Thursday vagina blogging: open sesame

By: Vaginismus, or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying & Love Getting Punched in the Face « Against All Evidence

Sun, 18 Dec 2011 10:01:32 +0000

[...] I Blame the Patriarchy: “Thursday Vagina Blogging” [...]

By: Doctors debate dyspareunia part 3: Pain’s validity, con’t « Feminists with Female Sexual Dysfunction

Thu, 25 Aug 2011 01:45:02 +0000

[...] but it’s still pretty rare for me to find much about dyspareunia. Online, I recall Twisty Faster’s post about vaginismus from a few years ago as a feminist perspective on patriarchial sex and a painful sexual problem [...]

By: Sonja

Sonja — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 23:30:08 +0000

well,one of the other issues that I have with this condition is, that its existence is also useful to paint women who have been penetrated against their will as ‘lacking in morality’. OTOH, I would ALWAYS like to be in charge of all parts of my body at all times, thus I can understand that women might seek treatment in any case. Ever since I have moved to teh United states I have been shocked by the warlike status between the genders. It seems like there is simply no way t be a decent guy without being assualted by any number of people as weak and a pussy, while there seems to be also no way to be a simple, fun and sex (as in consentual) loving woman, not always at risk of being raped. I’ll be fleeing back home as soon as work permits as I have two girls to raise. I’d rather not do it in this environment. SHouldn’t it be easiest to be a decent human being and keeping each otehr safe without attacking each other? I guess that is just another form of partriarchy *dividing* to make the conquering that much easier,Sigh. POwer to you

By: sue

sue — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 01:54:54 +0000

This is horrible. I too have been diagnosed with VV…
It never even occurred to me that something was wrong with trying to fix the pain in order to PIV sex.

It’s like a given- you must get cured (through surgery or mind numbing meds) or you must be alone forever if you’re a hetero female.

Yes, you ppl are right- why should i have to have a mutilating surgery in order to have a fulfilling relationship?

This type of thinking is just not out in the mainstream.

Women are either nymphos or frigid.

Actual medical reasons for pain – not talked about in the media!

Horrible!

My therapist says 25 percent of her female patients suffer from painful sex.

And the solution is to fix the woman not for the man to find alternatives to causing his partner severe pain.

What kind of fucked up world is this?

Shame on our stupid society!

Women need to speak up!

Pain is pain wherever it is on the body. And no one should feel less than human because they pain!

sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh

what a fucked up world!

By: Do’s and Don’ts of a Vulvodynia Article « Swimming Horses

Do’s and Don’ts of a Vulvodynia Article « Swimming Horses — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 20:47:52 +0000

[...] Do write about how society’s focus on intercourse can hurt vaginismus sufferers Don’t have your only info on vaginismus be from a psych website because it isn’t a psychological disorder [...]

By: Esther

Esther — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 03:03:23 +0000

This is an awesome post, and I want to send good thoughts and love to all the beautiful women here who posted about dealing with vaginismus/vulvar vestibulitis/vulvodynia/anything else. Chronic pain sucks. Let’s get this shit solved.

By: InfamousQBert

InfamousQBert — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 20:40:54 +0000

holy fucking shit. i can’t, i mean, my brain=dead after this. putting POISON? in my vagina?! just to make it open up?! who the hell thought this was a good idea and why did we give him a medical license!?

By: Itxaro

Itxaro — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 01:34:14 +0000

fleetfootedfox, the whole “ZOMG YOU’RE TELLING PEOPLE HOW TO HAVE SEX” gambit is the oldest goddamn trick in the book and nobody who reads IBTP is buying it. Lurk more– and realize that asking people to examine their assumptions (and letting them know that if they HURT SO BADLY THEY CRY every time they have PIV sex, it’s not the only option) is not telling people how to have sex, how to get orgasms, or what they SHOULD like.

You said that someone who has grown up conditioned to enjoy procreative activities will not get off when not having PIV sex.
Proof or GTFO. The mere fact that women in our society enjoy clitoral orgasms disproves your theory. Oh, and all those fundie christian kids engaging in oral/anal to save their poor virginities…

By: fleetfootedfox

fleetfootedfox — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 16:51:40 +0000

No, I’m not fucking(your word) kidding.

The solution is going to have to come through treating the underlying issue. Numbing the area, or just giving up on a specific part/type of sex are crap solutions that don’t even treat symptoms, they ignore the symptoms wholesale.

For plenty of women, orgasms without penetration are difficult, painful, or just less desirable. I don’t see how someone can be considered sex-positive and tell people what kind of orgasms or sex they should have.

By: Jezebella

Jezebella — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 16:39:33 +0000

Toonces: good move.

Y’all can reclaim the word all you want, but if somebody calls me or anyone I know that word, he’s on the permanent shit list.