“Oh man, I do this all the time. Sometimes I really was trying to say X from a slightly different angle only I was too dumb to say it right, but sometimes, yes, I’m merely trying to weasel out of having blurted out some half-baked chump rot without thinking it through.

One more thing to add to the Aunt-Improvement List.”

I think you’re doing fine on the ‘intent’ front: I googled IBTP for the terms “never my intention”, “not my intent” etc. and I only found 3 cases of you using the phrase.

Although I found plenty of guys falling into that crutch, with usually disastrous results. Seriously guys, think twice before hitting the ‘Blame’ button if your comment includes the words “not my intent” or its variants, as that’s usually a sign that you’ve smacked head-on into a male privilege or two. At that point, it’s a good idea to pull over and determine the cause of the accident (hint: 99% of the time it is NOT due to a misunderstanding of your words) before hitting the gas again.

Oh man, I do this all the time. Sometimes I really was trying to say X from a slightly different angle only I was too dumb to say it right, but sometimes, yes, I’m merely trying to weasel out of having blurted out some half-baked chump rot without thinking it through.

One more thing to add to the Aunt-Improvement List.

As for your second statement, come on, we ALL know that BDSM can be feminist if you just do it right. (Yeah, that was sarcasm).

I always cringe these days whenever I hear, “It was never my intention to X” followed by, “Rather, I was trying to say [X from a slightly different angle]“. (Especially since I was a jerk and also used these blame-avoiding crapshoots in the past.)

Perhaps these two phrases could be added to the spamulator?

Also, “all my feminist friends are into BDSM” is not an admissible argument at IBTP.

I hear Janis Joplin when I read that.

Things are kind of naturally protected down there, though (I’ll refrain from sharing graphic details since I’m sure everyone here is smart enough to figure out what I’m talking about) and clothing effectively fills the role intended by nature. This applies only to personal experience, however. I’m not speaking for anyone else.

“And how does one bring up the topic of pubical shaving or the lack thereof and the reasons for or against in a social setting?”

The internet isn’t a social setting?

I was just about to recommend his work to Nigel Dave. If regular doses of Jensen aren’t enough to convince you to give up porn, your empathy is broken and you should definitely look into having that fixed.

Just Prudes?: http://uts.cc.utexas.edu/~rjensen/freelance/justprudes.htm (Very triggery in the sexual violence dept.)

Other Jensen articles: http://uts.cc.utexas.edu/~rjensen/articles_gender.html

Men and Porn: http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2003/nov/08/gender.weekend7 (Fabulous analysis of the detrimental effects of porn written from a male perspective. All men should read this!)

`Her first orgy? I couldn’t face it’: http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qn4158/is_20010406/ai_n14379723 (Article about a male film-maker’s experience shooting the documentary “Hardcore” that showcases the abuses female porn stars face in the industry.)