Weirdly I think most of how I decided to look was based off not looking like a woman on the television or in the movies, ever.

So far, so good…

Disgusting really..

And, whether or not rape has anything to do with sexual desire, it still remains that it involves sex. And I just think that fat women are so utterly nonsexual in the public mind that even the thought of putting your dick in one (even in an act of violence) probably doesn’t even occur to most men. Or, if it does, it’s probably met with sheer disgust.

What would be the point of physically asserting your dominance over a fat woman, anyway? Everyone “knows” big girls are bottom-of-the-barrel, below even “normal” women. It’d be like a man raping a dog (a nonsexualized, “lesser” being that is commonly thought to be subservient to humans) to assert his dominance over it. Very few people would do that, I think. For one thing, it’s not exactly socially acceptable, and the raper would have to endure the raping process as well. Instead, said asshole would probably just kick or otherwise harm said dog. Which is why I fear being shot in the head a lot more than I fear being raped.

A lack of care leads to the suggested patriarchal cure, to wit, “What she needs is a good fuck.” –Sutton

But, ah, not if you’re fat.

Having been fat all my life, I have never once feared walking outside alone at night, even when passing men on the sidewalk in deep shadow. In fact, 3-4 AM is when I usually go for walks. The fact is that fat women aren’t considered, in any context, to be either sexual or sexually desirable. The very notion is laughable to most people.

Honestly, I’m much more likely to be simply shot in the face out of hatred for fat people. Because, if what I’m told is true, the size of my body wholly disgusts all normal people, and by merely stepping outside my house, I am committing an aggressive, hateful attack against innocent eyeballs.

Life sure is grand.

Thanks.

But of course, no mention by dickhead male author that perhaps a combination of White Supremacist beauty standards and misogyny (which go hand-in-hand) could have anything to do with Iranian or Middle Eastern women’s attempts to make their noses smaller. *snark*

As far as doing an activity that helps me be with myself, and away from the cultural and mental assaults of the Patriarchy, photography really does the trick for me. I am really in my element when I am taking photographs. Also, eating great food helps too.

Now, as far as making a difference in our society, in trying to fight Patriarchy, I don’t think dissociating yourself completely from other folks, and from society, helps anyone, really. If we expect to fight systems of oppression we have to work together, as a community. Humans are social beings, and we cannot form our senses of self without connections and relationships with others. Feminism is (or should be) about helping ALL women rise up, not just ourselves or a few individuals. Feminism is about WE, not about ME. So whatever way you can try to help, whether it’s volunteering at a women’s shelter or clinic, speaking out against oppressive legislation, defending an abused or ostracized woman in your family or community, etc. etc., you are helping fight the Patriarchy in some way, even if it at first seems small.

With regard to the fabulous bug photo, I was going to say that I am happy, as a human, that I don’t “make love” to another human by sticking my butt against the other’s, but then I thought of heterosexual penis-and-vagina sex and now I am not really sure which is worse…

If we alter the law to require full disclosure of product contents as part of the contract between vendor and buyer, consumers can again regulate the marketplace, a la capitalistic philosophy. We choose to offer our money for goods and services which meet our criteria for objects worthy of purchase. Disclosure of faults in products has smashed any number of businesses. On a larger scale, it changes the marketplace as it did in Europe (trickle down felt here).

Capitalism was undercut by misdirection and the use of a term which had ceased to be used as meant in economic theory. Democracy has also been misused – we are a Republic, a rather patriarchal and supremacist model itself.

So, that might indicate another look be taken at the concept of committed relationships and marriage (in its civil sense). The forms they take can support or undermine the patriarchy regardless of whether they take place between persons of one or two genders. It might involve marriage or other less formalized union.

Why recommend people deprive themselves of certain beneficial human experiences in the name of sacrifice? Better to exemplify the actual type of relationship which honors self-sufficiency and interdependence; that equal form of need which draws people together to increase their power and quality of life. It is the subjugation and mandated dependence of women which ensures men don’t have to actually compete for partners or work to keep them via their accomplishments. Sex becomes their ‘right’. Retention of superior status is a matter of economics and a culturally defined form of ‘duty’ among the brainwashed. That is not a relationship but a form of kidnapping.

There is no such thing as separate but equal. There is only equality or a pretense of it.