Comments on: Spinster aunt emerges from self-help section with inferior selection http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 15:18:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Embee http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/#comment-167965 Embee Wed, 04 Aug 2010 18:11:11 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3266#comment-167965 Wiggles: "Fuck that. If I’m running the show, people better recognize." I (heart) you. Wiggles:

“Fuck that. If I’m running the show, people better recognize.”

I (heart) you.

]]> By: Hedgepig http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/#comment-157605 Hedgepig Tue, 22 Dec 2009 22:24:37 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3266#comment-157605 And in so many cases the libertarian idea of personal liberty applies to the person who is the head of the family i.e. men. That's why libertarians like to complain about government interference in the family group, because part of their idea of personal liberty is the right of a man to control and treat his possessions as he sees fit without having to answer to any authority. And in so many cases the libertarian idea of personal liberty applies to the person who is the head of the family i.e. men. That’s why libertarians like to complain about government interference in the family group, because part of their idea of personal liberty is the right of a man to control and treat his possessions as he sees fit without having to answer to any authority.

]]> By: nails http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/#comment-157602 nails Tue, 22 Dec 2009 09:56:42 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3266#comment-157602 There are a few nuggets in libertarian opinion that are good; the bits about questioning authority and the horrible power of the government, the importance of personal liberty, etc. However, anarchist writings seem to include those themes but in general are much more comprehensive and include important critiques of corporate power and social systems of authority. So I would recommend that over mainstream libertarian opinion any day. There are a few nuggets in libertarian opinion that are good; the bits about questioning authority and the horrible power of the government, the importance of personal liberty, etc. However, anarchist writings seem to include those themes but in general are much more comprehensive and include important critiques of corporate power and social systems of authority. So I would recommend that over mainstream libertarian opinion any day.

]]> By: nobody's darling http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/#comment-157485 nobody's darling Thu, 17 Dec 2009 13:23:30 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3266#comment-157485 I am not a libertarian, nor do I embrace their philosophy of complete and utter selfishness. I was merely suggesting that there is some good, practical information buried in some of the crazy titles - information that could be useful to someone who is trying to figure out what her own values, philosophies, and morals are and how to live according to those regardless of what mainstream society is selling. I agree that the author of the particular book that I recommended refused to acknowledge the existence of systemic oppression, but that does not mean that there is not a lot of good information there. Certainly, we continue to work for change on a societal level, but we still have to live our individual lives right now, and there is no reason why we can't try to live them with as much integrity and make them as satisfying as we can. I am not a libertarian, nor do I embrace their philosophy of complete and utter selfishness. I was merely suggesting that there is some good, practical information buried in some of the crazy titles – information that could be useful to someone who is trying to figure out what her own values, philosophies, and morals are and how to live according to those regardless of what mainstream society is selling. I agree that the author of the particular book that I recommended refused to acknowledge the existence of systemic oppression, but that does not mean that there is not a lot of good information there. Certainly, we continue to work for change on a societal level, but we still have to live our individual lives right now, and there is no reason why we can’t try to live them with as much integrity and make them as satisfying as we can.

]]> By: glorious_spoon http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/#comment-157464 glorious_spoon Wed, 16 Dec 2009 23:41:56 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3266#comment-157464 <i>“Watch Successful Couples: Have you ever noticed how when asked how they make it work, people in loving stable relationships say, “I don’t know…it just always felt right”.</i> Funny. My husband and I get along because we spend lots of time apart, don't step on each others' toes, share responsibilities, fight without being cruel, and don't have kids. Most of the time it feels right. But I get along with him because I like him, and I like him because we understand each other, and one of the things we understand about each other is that either one of us could walk away at any minute and the other would be okay, financially and emotionally. Oh, and because he's smart enough not to lie to me. “Watch Successful Couples:
Have you ever noticed how when asked how they make it work, people in loving stable relationships say, “I don’t know…it just always felt right”.

Funny. My husband and I get along because we spend lots of time apart, don’t step on each others’ toes, share responsibilities, fight without being cruel, and don’t have kids.

Most of the time it feels right. But I get along with him because I like him, and I like him because we understand each other, and one of the things we understand about each other is that either one of us could walk away at any minute and the other would be okay, financially and emotionally.

Oh, and because he’s smart enough not to lie to me.

]]> By: Jezebella http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/#comment-157458 Jezebella Wed, 16 Dec 2009 21:18:41 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3266#comment-157458 Which reminds me: Fuck, I hate the smug "I got mine so screw the rest of you" libertarian attitude. Sure I can create my own value system, but that doesn't change everybody else's, now does it? Which reminds me: Fuck, I hate the smug “I got mine so screw the rest of you” libertarian attitude. Sure I can create my own value system, but that doesn’t change everybody else’s, now does it?

]]> By: Roving Thundercloud http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/#comment-157450 Roving Thundercloud Wed, 16 Dec 2009 19:48:22 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3266#comment-157450 I second that recommendation for The Dance of Anger, but not only for women (it does not only apply to couple relationships). My spouse used it to modify some really dysfunctional family dynamics. I second that recommendation for The Dance of Anger, but not only for women (it does not only apply to couple relationships). My spouse used it to modify some really dysfunctional family dynamics.

]]> By: Jill http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/#comment-157440 Jill Wed, 16 Dec 2009 17:35:19 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3266#comment-157440 <em>"As a general rule, radical feminists would do well to add more titles from the libertarian section of the book store to their reading lists."</em> As a general rule, libertarians would do well to shut the fuck up about what radical feminists would do well to do. “As a general rule, radical feminists would do well to add more titles from the libertarian section of the book store to their reading lists.”

As a general rule, libertarians would do well to shut the fuck up about what radical feminists would do well to do.

]]> By: nails http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/#comment-157416 nails Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:46:49 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3266#comment-157416 A comment of mine has been stuck in moderation que forever, so I am going to condense it. I think its because of my amazon link; I was saying that The Dance of Anger was a good self help book for women. So it isn't all crap. A comment of mine has been stuck in moderation que forever, so I am going to condense it. I think its because of my amazon link; I was saying that The Dance of Anger was a good self help book for women. So it isn’t all crap.

]]> By: Kelsey http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2009/12/11/spinster-aunt-emerges-from-self-help-section-with-inferior-selection/#comment-157407 Kelsey Tue, 15 Dec 2009 03:33:17 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3266#comment-157407 On the topic of shitty self help: my friend Kara and I got fed up with Cosmo and Men's Health kind of advice and made this: http://vimeo.com/7907557 "SEX HACKS: We teach you how to HACK THE FUCK"... On the topic of shitty self help: my friend Kara and I got fed up with Cosmo and Men’s Health kind of advice and made this:

http://vimeo.com/7907557

“SEX HACKS: We teach you how to HACK THE FUCK”…

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