Comments on: There are molecules in the brain called “neurotransmitters” http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/ Thu, 09 Sep 2010 06:08:28 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Saphire http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/#comment-163875 Saphire Sat, 05 Jun 2010 05:46:04 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3364#comment-163875 ^ Ugh. Some men are just embarassing with mansplaining. I wish we could all laugh at how cringe-worthy men are. But it's like women should never laugh at men. Or we're hairy man hating witches. The reason the patriarchy holds so strong is because we're not allowed to laugh at the idiocy of men. ^ Ugh. Some men are just embarassing with mansplaining. I wish we could all laugh at how cringe-worthy men are. But it’s like women should never laugh at men. Or we’re hairy man hating witches. The reason the patriarchy holds so strong is because we’re not allowed to laugh at the idiocy of men.

]]> By: monika/shermanvolvo http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/#comment-163873 monika/shermanvolvo Sat, 05 Jun 2010 05:01:04 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3364#comment-163873 My favourite (and most painful to witness mansplaining) involved a white dude (facilitator) interrupting a woman of Colour (participant) in order to badly (and wrongly) summarize her very intelligent contribution to a discussion against violence against women. My favourite (and most painful to witness mansplaining) involved a white dude (facilitator) interrupting a woman of Colour (participant) in order to badly (and wrongly) summarize her very intelligent contribution to a discussion against violence against women.

]]> By: Fred Fnord http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/#comment-160149 Fred Fnord Wed, 17 Mar 2010 06:09:35 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3364#comment-160149 Not that you're going to read comments attached to posts this old, but I feel the need to complain about this goddamned post. You seriously imperiled my life by this post. I started laughing and coughing at the word 'mansplaining' (which I admit to having been guilty of more than once, to people of a wide variety of genders, although if it makes any difference I conciously try not to do it now). When I got to the bit about the computers I was crying, and when I hit 'crapping a rule' I was doubled over, coughing and laughing so hard that the sparklies were dancing in front of my eyes and brain aneurism was beginning to sound like one of the less stressful possible outcomes. Damn. You people write all this stuff and you NEVER THINK of the poor people with pneumonia you might CALLOUSLY KILL with it! Isn't that just like a woman? -fred Not that you’re going to read comments attached to posts this old, but I feel the need to complain about this goddamned post.

You seriously imperiled my life by this post. I started laughing and coughing at the word ‘mansplaining’ (which I admit to having been guilty of more than once, to people of a wide variety of genders, although if it makes any difference I conciously try not to do it now). When I got to the bit about the computers I was crying, and when I hit ‘crapping a rule’ I was doubled over, coughing and laughing so hard that the sparklies were dancing in front of my eyes and brain aneurism was beginning to sound like one of the less stressful possible outcomes.

Damn. You people write all this stuff and you NEVER THINK of the poor people with pneumonia you might CALLOUSLY KILL with it!

Isn’t that just like a woman?

-fred

]]> By: Oh, Great! It’s Mansplaining Dot Com! « femonade http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/#comment-159188 Oh, Great! It’s Mansplaining Dot Com! « femonade Sat, 20 Feb 2010 03:12:33 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3364#comment-159188 [...] by me, called “guyspeak dot com.” mansplaining has been getting its share of attention on the feminist internets lately, so this struck me as funny.  much like the MRAs ”pwning” domestic violence, [...] [...] by me, called “guyspeak dot com.” mansplaining has been getting its share of attention on the feminist internets lately, so this struck me as funny.  much like the MRAs ”pwning” domestic violence, [...]

]]> By: phio gistic http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/#comment-158967 phio gistic Thu, 11 Feb 2010 20:58:42 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3364#comment-158967 One of my favorite mansplaining anecdotes: I had been hired by a friend of mine to install security software on the public computer in his bar. I went in early in the day when the place was mostly empty and was sitting at the computer, with a beer and a smoke, happily working away when in sashays this fellow I'd never seen before. He saunters up and says hello and within minutes is literally trying to take the mouse out of my hand and show my how to use it. Once I'd stopped laughing, I told him thanks, but I really needed some alone time with the computer so I could finish up the project I had been hired to do. One of my favorite mansplaining anecdotes:
I had been hired by a friend of mine to install security software on the public computer in his bar. I went in early in the day when the place was mostly empty and was sitting at the computer, with a beer and a smoke, happily working away when in sashays this fellow I’d never seen before. He saunters up and says hello and within minutes is literally trying to take the mouse out of my hand and show my how to use it. Once I’d stopped laughing, I told him thanks, but I really needed some alone time with the computer so I could finish up the project I had been hired to do.

]]> By: Laughingrat http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/#comment-158928 Laughingrat Wed, 10 Feb 2010 14:05:57 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3364#comment-158928 <i>does this critique extend to other forms of power imbalance?</i> Translation: quit criticizing sexist dynamics in het relationships! That's not as important as all these other issues! You feminists need to concentrate on what's important! does this critique extend to other forms of power imbalance?

Translation: quit criticizing sexist dynamics in het relationships! That’s not as important as all these other issues! You feminists need to concentrate on what’s important!

]]> By: speedbudget http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/#comment-158926 speedbudget Wed, 10 Feb 2010 13:09:50 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3364#comment-158926 Hedgepig: I agree. I live alone now, and believe me. I shit my pants constantly. One misstep and I'm totally, utterly screwed. But I'm doing it, not least because the thought of sharing my space with anyone, male or female, makes my skin crawl. Hedgepig: I agree. I live alone now, and believe me. I shit my pants constantly. One misstep and I’m totally, utterly screwed. But I’m doing it, not least because the thought of sharing my space with anyone, male or female, makes my skin crawl.

]]> By: Hedgepig http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/#comment-158913 Hedgepig Wed, 10 Feb 2010 03:28:42 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3364#comment-158913 Another complicating factor is that the alternatives to non-abusive het relationships, those involving co-habitation in particular, are not necessarily much better. I've shared houses with female friends several times for years at a time, and the treatment I've received from some of them has been abysmal. Treatment that resembled the kinds of infuriating, insulting and demeaning stuff men pull because of privilege; different only in that the people being arseholes are using the force of their personalities or their manipulative talents on a social equal, rather than the presumption of superiority based on gender. Living alone is really the best option, but that's not financially viable for everyone. Another complicating factor is that the alternatives to non-abusive het relationships, those involving co-habitation in particular, are not necessarily much better. I’ve shared houses with female friends several times for years at a time, and the treatment I’ve received from some of them has been abysmal. Treatment that resembled the kinds of infuriating, insulting and demeaning stuff men pull because of privilege; different only in that the people being arseholes are using the force of their personalities or their manipulative talents on a social equal, rather than the presumption of superiority based on gender. Living alone is really the best option, but that’s not financially viable for everyone.

]]> By: speedbudget http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/#comment-158906 speedbudget Tue, 09 Feb 2010 19:04:13 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3364#comment-158906 Jezebella: I think it's because the bar is set so low for decent male behavior and there is so much societal pressure on women to be in a relationship. If you haven't had a feminist epiphany, a little mansplaining and male privilege is sold as a bill of goods that this guy is awesome. Hey, at least he doesn't beat me; right? I've had a couple good friends tell me that even if they ARE in a shitty, shitty relationship, that's better than being single because being single is just pathetic. And I hadn't been in a relationship in six years at that point, so I asked them what that said about me. They didn't have an answer. Jezebella: I think it’s because the bar is set so low for decent male behavior and there is so much societal pressure on women to be in a relationship. If you haven’t had a feminist epiphany, a little mansplaining and male privilege is sold as a bill of goods that this guy is awesome. Hey, at least he doesn’t beat me; right?

I’ve had a couple good friends tell me that even if they ARE in a shitty, shitty relationship, that’s better than being single because being single is just pathetic. And I hadn’t been in a relationship in six years at that point, so I asked them what that said about me. They didn’t have an answer.

]]> By: Jezebella http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2010/01/29/there-are-molecules-in-the-brain-called-neurotransmitters/#comment-158902 Jezebella Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:09:10 +0000 http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/?p=3364#comment-158902 Nails, if that's directed at me, I should note that I am a het woman who isn't so much "critical" of het relationships as fucking mystified with the shit women will tolerate in a relationship. I'm not talking about abuse - I understand THAT dynamic all too well- I'm talking about the daily bullshit of mansplaining and over-talking and just general male privilege that women who ARE free to leave will tolerate. I am ill-qualified to have an opinion on the other kinds of relationships you mention. Nails, if that’s directed at me, I should note that I am a het woman who isn’t so much “critical” of het relationships as fucking mystified with the shit women will tolerate in a relationship. I’m not talking about abuse – I understand THAT dynamic all too well- I’m talking about the daily bullshit of mansplaining and over-talking and just general male privilege that women who ARE free to leave will tolerate. I am ill-qualified to have an opinion on the other kinds of relationships you mention.

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