Monthly Archive for March, 2011

Toronto activists take back the slut

SlutWalkers say it loud and proud on April 3

Canadian blamers have just hipped me to SlutWalk. Thanks, Canadian blamers!  On April 3rd, Toronto anti-rape activists will be protesting the reification by law enforcement of the bogus cultural construct “slut.” The protest march was ignited by this remark, recently uttered by Toronto cop Michael Sanguinetti as he addressed a class of law school students:

“Women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.”

Michael Sanguinetti has apparently been reading those helpful rape-avoidance email forwards that counsel weak, defenseless women on how not to convey the message that we want men to rape us. He knows that men’s behavior is totally our responsibility! In a twisted dude-centric culture that sees nothing amiss in defining women as the receptacles for dudely incontinence, it is unsurprising that the Michael Sanguinettis of the world should also conclude that when men behave accordingly, it is women’s fault.

In addition to calling bullshit on the Toronto police for perpetuating a misogynist myth — they’re literally marching to the police headquarters’ front door — SlutWalk is going to try to do that thing that many an activist group has tried — and failed — to do for a while now, which is to reclaim a debasing epithet.

Aimed at those who are sexually promiscuous, be it for work or pleasure, it has primarily been women who have suffered under the burden of this label. And whether dished out as a serious indictment of one’s character or merely as a flippant insult, the intent behind the word is always to wound, so we’re taking it back. “Slut” is being re-appropriated.

They’re not joking around, either. They’ve got SLUT buttons for the SlutWalkers to wear. This is what a slut looks like, etc.

I couldn’t call myself a spinster aunt if I didn’t offer a critical analysis of the SlutWalk concept, so here goes.

The spinster aunt must question, as an objective for any kind of walk, slut- or otherwise, the necessity of “re-appropriating” a sexist slur. My concerns are several, but time is short, so here is a quick summary:

Does changing the context of the word change the word? It might, but only so long as that context persists. Context is how Dave Chapelle could nigger it up on his TV show for laughs, but in the mainstream ‘nigger’ is bleeped out or re-issued as “the N-word,” confirming its status as one of the most offensive words in the English language.

In an attempt to disenvenom the word ’slut’, SlutWalkers can slut it up for their SlutWalk, wearing, as Toronto Sun columnist Heather Mallick says, “whatever it is that people wear as they go about their lives not asking to be raped,” but once the march is over, ‘Hey, I’m a slut!’ is unlikely to have the desired consciousness-raising effect. The sex class will still exist.

This notion of re-appropriating ’slut’ suggests that women, possibly in some happier time, had previously a-ppropriated it for our own benefit. But in no wise was there ever a culture in which women’s solidarity compelled us to define ourselves by the number of men we’ve pronged and how closely we conformed to pornographic dress codes when we did it. When you’re standing up against your own oppression as a member of the sex class, it is problematic and of questionable revolutionary efficacy to stamp yourself and your comrades-in-arms with the mark of the oppressor.

In other words, calling yourself a slut, in the middle of a flippin’ patriarchy, can only have the effect, as Germaine Greer noted, of reinforcing men’s sense of their own superiority.* If you’ll permit a personal anecdote:

I confirmed this firsthand when, at the apex of the Riot Grrl “movement,” I, too scrawled ’slut’ on an undershirt and wore it at gigs with my all-girl punk band. Was our audience a bunch of feminists shouting “you go, girl!”? Ha! If only. Even now the memory burns. Our audience was, in fact, a bunch of straight dudes. Leering, drunk straight dudes who saw a woman on stage with the word ’slut’ smeared across her chest and did not say to themselves, “Wow, I should really re-think the meaning of the word ’slut’ and reflect on my male privilege.” What they said to themselves (and, come to think of it, to me) was, “Slut, eh? Shit, I’d hit that.”

It turns out that ’slut’ isn’t just an adjective. It’s a character. A fictional character, beloved of patriarchal culture, who encrapulates eons of virgin/whore-fueled misogyny, and was invented to absolve violent dudes of rape behavior. Sluts are women deemed by the angry dude-mob to have so ineptly handled the duties of femininity that they must be shamed, mocked, and of course, fucked in perpetuity.

By which I mean, you may say “patayto” and I, “patahto,” but in the end it might be more advantageous to dismantle the slut rather than claim it. “Everyone’s a slut” just doesn’t have the same oomph as “nobody’s a slut.”

None of which is to say that Savage Death Island doesn’t wish SlutWalk the greatest possible success. Here’s hoping the Toronto police department responds with something more potent than the usual lip-service about “sensitivity training.” Nothing would tickle the spinster boob scars more than if The Slut were to disappear altogether from the cultural narrative.

By the way — speaking of rape-prevention email forwards — I can’t resist reprinting this satirical re-gendered version, originally sent in by a blamer in 2009 and gently adapted for Savage Death Island by me.

Sexual Assault Prevention Tips Guaranteed to Work

1. Don’t put drugs in women’s drinks.

2. When you see a woman walking by herself, leave her alone.

3. If you pull over to help a woman whose car has broken down, remember not to rape her.

4. If you are in a lift and a woman gets in, don’t rape her.

5. When you encounter a woman who is asleep, the safest course of action is to not rape her.

6. Never creep into a woman’s home through an unlocked door or window, or spring out at her from between parked cars, or rape her.

7. When you lurk in bushes and doorways with criminal intentions, always wear bright clothing, wave a flashlight, or play “Boys Who Rape (Should All Be Destroyed)” by the Raveonettes on a boombox really loud, so women in the vicinity will know where to aim their flamethrowers.

8. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If it is inconvenient for you to stop yourself from raping women, ask a trusted friend to accompany you when lurking in shadows.

9. Carry a rape whistle. If you find that you are about to rape a woman, you can hand the whistle to your buddy, so s/he can blow it to call for help.

10. Give your buddy a revolver, so that when indifferent passers-by either ignore the rape whistle, or gather round to enjoy the spectacle, s/he can pistol-whip you.

11. Don’t forget: Honesty is the best policy. When asking a woman out on a date, don’t pretend that you are interested in her as a person; tell her straight up that you expect to be raping her later. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the woman may take it as a sign that you do not plan to rape her.

In other words, the best way to prevent rape is to not rape anybody.

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* Greer, Germaine. The Whole Woman (New York: Alfred A Knopf, 1999) 198.

“The media treats women like shit”

So says Margaret Cho in the trailer of “Miss Representation,” a documentary about how the media treats women like shit. This is the film I mentioned the other day wherein it is claimed that, at our current rate of reform, women will not reach parity with men for another 500 years. Here’s the trailer.

The Spinstitute for Truth and Beauty in Film has yet to screen the whole movie, but if the trailer is any indication, it includes just enough disturbing T&A (as examples, of course) to sufficiently titillate mainstream viewers. Whereupon one becomes suspicious — suspicion is the spinster aunt’s bread & butter — that it’s got a mainstream agenda. Which becomes an even stronger suspicion when it comes to light that Oprah bought the film at Sundance. Oprah’s new OWN network — I know, right? — has a documentary club, like her old book club. She’s like the anti-Warhol!

OWN is heavy on the “reality” shows and, of course, Oprah’s golden-egg-laying goose, self-improvement advice. It has a food addiction show, a couple of cooking shows, a show starring Oprah’s best not-lesbian-lover Gayle, a show about three “attractive, articulate” women OB/GYNs, a show about “miracles,” and of course, professional pseudo-doctor gasbag Dr. Phil.

And what would Oprah’s own network be without a sex advice show?

“There can be many reasons for lost libido. In this web exclusive, Dr. Berman provides some insight and counsels a 41-year-old mother who isn’t interested in sex anymore.”

Dr Berman “counsels” the 41-year-old mother to go to a doctor for a checkup, because, apparently, a lack of interest in getting pronged is a medical problem. Oy vey.

Oprah, as has been mentioned here many times, is a problematic figure. She helicopters in to Savage Death Island once in a while, and parties a little bit, but before you know it she’s back in Hollywood, wearing makeup, dieting, and shillin’ for the Man.

Thanks, Bobby, for jogging my memory

Incisive blamer commentary clippets of the day

Plastic trophy
Fig. 7. Unknown Artist. Kid trophy. 2009. Plastic and marble, 5 1/2″ x 3″. Collection of Finn Faster (age 5).

From the colorful comments on the MacGyver post:

Oppression is like kids’ soccer: we ALL get a trophy! — tinfoil hattie

Hetero feminists are not all Stepford Wives, you know. — Jezebella

If one partners with a man, with or without papers, it REQUIRES you to live in a one-down position every day of your life. — FemmeForever

The whole het-vs-lesbian debate strikes me as a little bit disingenuous, since sexual relationships are not the only kinds of relationships that can occur between men and women, and indeed are not, in my opinion, particularly distinguished or special as compared to familial, friendly, or professional relationships. — Triste

Having a father or brother is not voluntary. Having a husband or son is. Platonic friendships and professional relationships do not have the same emotional intensity, i.e. the kind of emotional intensity which encourages compromises. — Kali

I would go further and say the superlative importance our culture places on romantic relationships is the very KEY to how patriarchy maintains itself. — Darragh Murphy

Being with women doesn’t insulate me from things I fear about patriarchal culture. — nails

So, a tube sock, an Olivetti, and a Timex watch walk into a bar. — buttercup

[A] long period of celibacy for women is crucial to coming around to the idea that men aren’t necessary for happiness and fulfillment and that life can be pretty satisfying without them. — speedbudget

Radical feminism is deeply unpopular among heterosexual women. It requires of us what we cannot do: give up our collusion with our oppressors. — Hedgepig

Just the idea of a man’s peen grosses me out now — sorry, but what awful dangly little things they are! urgh. — N/A

I like to pretend emo bands fronted by impossibly-banged boys in skinny jeans are actually headed by Amy Ray. — Sarah

Fellatios are quite a hassle. *– Anna

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* Remember the Fellatio Wars of Aught-Six? Good times!

Spinster aunt takes a moment

Still life with MacGyver and plastic chair

No time to post! Awaiting me in the bunkhouse rec room are a plate of nachos, a frosty marg, and 4 hours of MacGyver on DVR. Do I recommend MacGyver as primo Savage Death Island viewing? You betcha. There are no actual butch TV action heroes, so I pretend MacGyver is a handy-dyke who exemplifies the resourcefulness, anti-gunniness,  spunky can-do attitude, and mullet that every feminist will need to make it through the revolution.

That theme song! It sounds like it was played on a keyboard macgyvered together from a tube sock, a Timex watch, and an Olivetti.

Spinster aunt reads interesting email

Despite the dire predictions saturating yesterday’s news, last night’s “supermoon” didn’t precipitate too many cosmic cataclysms or harmonic convergences here in Cottonmouth County. The toilets still flush clockwise and my internet connection remains intact. Sometimes intact internet connections bum me out, but today I was pleased to discover among the emails a communiqué from Athena Andreadis, molecular neurobiologist, author, and my new idol.

In her email Ms Andreadis expressed general solidarity, curled a lip at “the Tarzanism of the self-labeled progressive intellectuals” (the Dawkinses of which group I pooh-poohed in yesterday’s post), then turned me on to her blog, Astrogator’s Logs.

As superintendent of the Savage Death Island Spinstitute for No. 1 Science Information, I am delighted, in turn, to turn you on to her blog. Her essays have titles like “Girl Cooties Menace the Singularity!” and do not disappoint. Behold an excerpt from “Blastocysts Feel No Pain,” a recent piece bursting with No. 1 Science Information, on the misogyny of blastocyst-worship, the handiness of stem cells, the crappiness of the “Protect Life” Act, and the redoubtable power of politicians to enslave women as fetusbags.

Despite fulminations to the contrary, women never make reproductive decisions lightly since their repercussions are irreversible, life-long and often determine their fate. Becoming a human is a process that is incomplete even at birth, since most brain wiring happens postnatally. Demagoguery may be useful to lawyers, politicians and control-obsessed fanatics. But in the end, two things are true: actual humans are (should be) much more important than potential ones – and this includes women, not just the children they bear and rear; and embryonic stem cells, because of their unique properties, may be the only path to alleviating enormous amounts of suffering for actual humans.

Ms Andreadis avers that, loosely speaking, blastocyst : human :: acorn : oak. Imagine (and this lumpen speculation is purely my invention; don’t go blaming it on Athena) if the Oak People were as loony over acorns as godbag humans are over clumps of cells. My horses hang around under oak trees all day waiting for acorns to fall, so they can eat them with some fava beans and a nice chianti.* If they didn’t get eaten, the zillions of acorns that happened to land in hospitable spots would become irksome, ankle-shredding shrubs, eventually choking the life out of each other in a slo-mo battle royale over water, sun, and nutrients. Providing sustenance to furry woodland creatures is what the vast majority of acorns do. Everybody (except the people who have to rake them up) accepts the happy outcome of this reasonable arrangement with grace and dignity, which is why you won’t see gangs of sapped-up timber from the Society for Compulsory Arborosity running around like mad trying to force all these acorns into seedlings; this would kill the adult trees and starve the forest critters. Also, timber can’t run.

Nobody needs every flippin’ embryo to turn into a baby, either, but stem cells can actually improve the circumstances of persons who are already humans.

If you catch my drift.

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* Yes, I am aware that acorns are toxic to horses. Fastidious raking keeps them (the horses) alive, but the equine aptitude for acorn-spotting is remarkable for animals with brains the size of plums.

Spinster aunt reads comment on Dawkins website, wrinkles lip

Liberal dudes (and that boobquake chick) just love celebrity biologist Richard Dawkins. Even some Internet feminists may be said not to vomit blood at the mention of his name. Because no greater proponent of atheism than yours truly ever camera-stalked a Rio Grand turkey in the Texas Hill Country, even the Spinster Library contains a couple of Dawkins’ popular, well-written books. They are enjoyable if one is charmed by that mellifluous English public school manner of expression, and if human penis-based arguments against godbagism typically convey buoyancy to your ocean-going vessel.

As an added precaution, the Great Council of the Dieri would also keep a stockpile of boys’ foreskins in constant readiness, because of their homeopathic power to produce rain.*

Despite his admirable enthusiasm for some of the richer morsels of history’s bounty, Dawkins is, as I have always maintained, no feminist. This is a disappointment but hardly surprising, since rare indeed is the intellectual Western motherfucker who is not enamored of the glorious myth that he and his ilk, in their educated and progressive magnanimity, have liberated their women.

It’s a disappointment, not just because it blows whenever a superstar brainiac turns out to be a knob about the global humanitarian crisis of patriarchal oppression, but also because of this: if otherwise rational, right-thinking, internationally worshiped dudes of Dawkins’ stature can remain deluded about the tyranny of male privilege, the chance in hell that feminist revolution might be said to stand is like unto that of a snowball. Particularly when women themselves, in the shape of self-described “equity feminists,” saunter through the town square declaring that patriarchal oppression in America does not exist. Even more particularly when the Dawkinses openly admire the  self-described feminists’ declarations.

The specific Dawkins-approved, self-described feminist to whom I allude is, of course, the notorious Christina Hoff Sommers, professional turncoat and author of several “Dudes Rule!”-themed books, such as the hatespeechy Who Stole Feminism, and that modern MRA classic The War Against Boys: How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men.

Sommers thinks American feminists should put a sock in it and take it easy. Why? Because Americans have got patriarchy licked. Women are officially free. La di da da, free. She invents an enemy of American women’s freedom: “gender feminists,” mythical creatures who hate men but for some reason nevertheless maintain that men and women are “essentially the same.”

“Gender feminists” are probably more accurately described as “feminists who think Sommers is full of shit.”

So anyway, some commenter on the Richard Dawkins fanboy site suggested that Dawkins take a gander at one of Sommers’ antifeminist lectures. Here is the link to the lecture. Its gist is that “eccentric gender feminists” have staged a coup and taken over the women’s movement. Whereupon the eccentrics instituted a disinformation campaign, spreading foul lies about — I kid you not — ancient Roman emperors, while leaving a trail of bloodied, quivering equity feminists and the men they love in their wake. Sommers even takes a couple of shots at Eve Ensler for — get this — failing to sufficiently praise dudes in the Vagina Monologues.

This excerpt from Sommers’ lecture states her premise.

[I]n 1994 [...] I published a book entitled Who Stole Feminism? The book was strongly feminist, but it rejected the idea that American women were oppressed. For the most part, feminism had succeeded, I said. By the nineties, I argued, American women were among the freest and most liberated in the world. It was no longer reasonable to say that as a group women were far worse off than men. Yes, there were still inequities, but to speak of American society as a “patriarchy” or to refer to American women as second class citizens was frankly absurd.

Hey, Christina Hoff Sommers, what about that pesky 75 cents-on-the-dollar pay disparity, or the fact that only 15% of American political offices are held by women? Sommers, it turns out, isn’t even sure that these “factoids” are true (given the opposition’s proven propensity for lying about ancient Roman history), but even if they are, they can be easily explained by that handy psuedoscience mainstay, evolutionary psychology. You see, men and women are neither physically nor cognitively “the same,” therefore it is irrational to expect men and women to excel equally. Men are simply hardwired to win more political campaigns than women. Apparently men are also hardwired to make more money than women. So feminists should accept their biological destiny, “tone down the rhetoric against men,” and bask in our sexism-free utopia.

No advanced blamer requires a refutation of that ludicrous argument, so we’ll just press on to Sommers’ views on the “eccentric” idea that some menacing entity called “patriarchy” goes around victimizing women.

The dominant philosophy of today’s women’s movement is not equity feminism–but “victim feminism.” “Victim” feminists don’t want to hear about the ways in which women have succeeded. They want to focus on and often invent new ways and perspectives in which women can be regarded as oppressed and subordinated to men.

A few words on this women-as-victims stuff:

Largely because of the success of the funfeminist movement, which argues that women do too have agency, dammit! (as long as their choiciness stays perfectly aligned with male interests), to view women as victims has become passé and unpopular. Women aren’t victims anymore now that we can own property, vote, and have the right to pole-dance in our boyfriends’ apartments. Furthermore, the argument goes, if we traipse about the countryside exaggerating the sorry plight of women (when in fact the plight of women, though admittedly not quite as awesome as men’s, is at least not as sorry as it was), we’re just buying into that unattractive, unempowerfulized, hysterical “victim mentality.” We freely choose to wear 6-inch heels, and if we author this choice, we cannot therefore be victims of it. If we don’t think we are victims, we won’t be victims.

You know; only sick people take pills; therefore, if I don’t take pills, I won’t be sick.

What this argument fails to consider, regardless of a few funfeminists’ purported choice to choose choices, is that, hourly, billions of women worldwide suffer everything from discrimination to murder exclusively because of their sex. Women cannot choose the “I’m-not-a-victim” choice. Not even the funfeminists can choose it, not really, because when stuff like “you cannot rape me” or “my appearance is meaningless” or “the state cannot interfere with the contents of my own personal uterus” is not on the menu of choices, no real agency exists. But apparently, claiming that patriarchy victimizes women is just whiney.

So why in the world would scores of radical feminists, both Internetian (rhymes with “Venetian”) and regular, devote their public lives to exposing the violence perpetrated by the dominant culture if there were nothing to expose? What possible motivation could we have for supposedly “inventing new ways in which women can be regarded as oppressed”?

Sommers offers a helpful explanation: “There are a lot of homely women in women’s studies. Preaching these anti-male, anti-sex sermons is a way for them to compensate for various heartaches–they’re just mad at the beautiful girls.”**

Meanwhile, upon reading the Sommers speech, Dawkins was moved to comment: “Thank you for this. I have now read the lecture you recommend, and it is indeed excellent.”

The anointed one has spoken.
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* Dawkins, Richard. Unweaving the Rainbow. Mariner Books, 2000. p.182.

** Sommers has denied ever making this remark.

Thanks, Stella Tex.

There’s not enough femininity on the internet, so I wrote this

It separates the men from the sex class. It’s the cornerstone of the megatheocorporatocratic oppression of women. It’s a global humanitarian crisis.

It’s femininity! It sure gets a lot of ink around here! We were just talking about it day before yesterday. At which point blamer Ashley raised a swell issue.

Short of wearing a clown suit and speaking through a mechanized voicebox, I can’t think of how one could avoid being perceived as performing either masculinity or femininity. The meaning of your performance is imposed by the audience.

This precise quandary has long plagued spinster aunts the world over. We do not advocate clown suits, however; polyester satin makes us perspire, and the bright colors seem to attract bees. Our solution? Flowing robes. Too biblical for ya? Well, then, grey sweats and Tom’s shoes for everyone! Who’s with me?

Continues Ashley:

Not to say that all performances are equally feminist, or that personal performance doesn’t matter at all. Just, doesn’t it make more sense to focus activism on institutional change and resource reallocation?

If Ashley is suggesting that that the onus is on us (the onus is on-us, the onus is on-us) to change the way women are perceived, I couldn’t agree more. That’s why I advocate personal repudiation of femininity on as broad a spectrum as possible. The less femininity there is to perceive, the better for all women everywhere.

But if I read it wrong, and Ashley is actually saying “enough with this anti-femininityism, already; there are more important feminist matters afoot,” I reply:

Fear not, Ashley, for feminist rage is not a finite substance. There’s enough for all the doomed rebellions.

In fact, it makes sense to challenge patriarchy at every level. If I haven’t made that clear by now I’m a crapulent failure as an Internet feminist. Harshin’ on femininity is just one aspect of the fight. At the annual Obstreperal Awards on Savage Death Island, they pin silver medals on everyone who focuses activism on institutional change and resource reallocation (you should come next year; the afterparties are awesome).

But they enjoin feminists to think small as well, because knocking it off already with the feminine wiles and beauty treatments and self-enstupefication are acts of resistance that anyone can do on her own, in the privacy of her own boudoir, boat, or den. It’s simple to do, and unlike big, slow institutional changes that take decades, ditching femininity can have an immediate impact. The anti-femininityite merely quits shaving her pits, or burns her 5″ platforms or whatever, and presto! Newly liberated from another shackle, she gets to snarl a gratifying “fuck you, Establishment!” at the Establishment, and to feel a little bit more like an actual sovereign entity.

But isn’t it hard? Blamer Claire K, who, in her preamble to an inspirational tale that she accurately describes as a “long anecdote about my own personal body hair. Really.”, has this to say to those who aren’t too sure about going native.

Many of the comments on [the most recent anti-femininity] thread seem to be about how difficult it is to stop performing femininity and how not everyone will be able to do it, as if the commentators are worried some radical feminists have it easy and need to be reminded of how hard it is for other people. I think, though, that everyone is already too aware that revolution is hard, and that we will get farther if we encourage each other instead of holding each other back by responding to every incitement to even the slightest revolutionary act with criticism of the inciter for not thinking of how hard it is, how some women won’t be able to do this, and so on.

She goes on to reveal the liberating effects she experienced by giving one little femininity dealio the heave-ho.

Awesomely, everyone she knows will get hit with some anti-femininity fallout, too. Women who resist are so rare, an anti-femininityist action is unlikely go unnoticed (or in some cases, unpunished) for long. Perhaps you’ll tolerate another personal anecdote, this time on the subject of the repercussions of resistance:

A pal of mine from the cancer trenches just had a double mastectomy. After agonizing about it for months, she decided not to undergo the painful and oppressor-appeasing “reconstruction” surgery.* She’s no radical feminist, either, she’s a straight, white, Republican country clubber, and she really liked having boobs. But ultimately she determined that she’d be sending the wrong message to her daughters if she capitulated to the patriarchal boobal mandate by having plastic funbags stapled to her chest. Her act of resistance cannot fail to ripple (ha ha, it rhymes with “nipple”!). Not just with her kids, but with her whole WASPy social circle. I pinned a gold medal on her.

So do you get kicked off the Island if you perform femininity? Dang, whaddya take me for, some kinda radical feminist? That would be messed up. I’m a spinster aunt, goddammit, and we fucking love everybody. I merely urge women to engage in the intellectual exercise of examining femininity: how much of the gottadoo** is really gotta, and how much is actually wanna. The femininity-bagging suggestion is not, as this blamer surmised, that women endanger the lives of their sick children by appearing so unfeminine that their boss fires them and they lose their health insurance.*** The suggestion is that women pause in their daily sashay through Mansworld to evaluate their feminine personae. You know, really give it the old analytical eye. Which appeasements really are literally necessary for literal survival, and which are maybe just gratuitous expressions of internalized misogyny? The idea is to ditch as much of it as is possible without getting anyone killed. That this might trespass a bit on your personal comfort is sort of the point. No pain, no gain. The revolution begins at home. Etc.

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* Why do I put “reconstruction” in quotation marks? Because this surgery doesn’t actually re-construct a breast at all; the resulting appurtenance contains no breast tissue, cannot nurse a baby, and is in fact actually just a prop designed to alleviate societal anxiety over women who might not otherwise present as sufficiently sexual. To those who have had reconstructive surgery, I do not vilify you. À votre santé!

** Gottadoo: Savage Death Islandish for femininity performed under the heading “I gotta do what I gotta do to survive.”

*** Irish Up, we are so sorry for your daughter’s illness. As a sicko myself, I know how it fucking sucks.

Women-in-Candy-Ads Korner

What is with this myth that cheap chocolate induces instantaneous orgasm in women?

Only sub-human

UPDATE: As commenters are probably aware, the So-Called Trans Debate (SCTD) is officially over. I may have mentioned it in passing in this essay, but please be advised that henceforth at I Blame the Patriarchy it will be necessary to discuss femininity without holding another painful referendum on transgenderism. On this post, as is my prerogative, I have allowed two or three stray comments on the topic for the purpose of clarifying my own views, but the party is over. If transphobic comments appear while I am away from my desk, they will be deleted when I get back; the commenters will be banned. It is written.

It has been suggested (by this blogger QueerCoup) that recently, when I eschewed femininity in the context of the so-called “trans debate” (yes, I know we’re done with the good old SCTD, but I mention it only in passing and as a springboard to a gripping pontification on a weighty subject, so prithee bear with), I was taking “a dig” at trans women. According to QueerCoup, “[a]t it’s heart, the rejection of femininity is a male-centred way of thinking. The assumption that femininity is for attracting men.” [sic]

Before anyone blows a lobe, allow me to assure the Blametariat that I make no such assumption. Quite the opposite. No spinster aunt who isn’t trippin on acid would ever reject femininity on the grounds that it is “for attracting men.” Spinster aunts know that femininity is not for attracting men. We reject it, of course, because we know it is actually for smushing women.

That’s right. Femininity is not a natural expression of femaleness. It is not an hereditary, hormone-based fascination for fashion, submissiveness, mani-peddies, baby-soft skin, or catfighting. It is not a fun-loving lifestyle choice. Femininity is a rigid system of behaviors imposed on us by the Global Accords Governing the Fair Use of Women as a means to control, subjugate, and marginalize us, entirely at our expense, for the benefit of the male-controlled megatheocorporatocracy.

Thus does the spinster aunt aver that the practice of femininity — whether by cis women, trans women, celebrities, lawyers, pastry chefs, people who work at Kinko’s, internet feminists, or anyone else — impedes the revolution. Here, I’ll say it again.

The practice of femininity impedes the revolution.

This idea often chaps the hide of novice blamers. This is because they don’t fully appreciate the hideous essence of femininity. Some of them believe that the practice of femininity is but one facet of an exciting smorgasbord (if a smorgasbord can be said to have facets, or to be exciting) of lifestyle choices available to today’s busy autonomous gal-on-the-go. They feel that “choosing” feminine conduct is an act of feminist rebellion, on the grounds that the choicing is entirely the chooser’s own personal idea. They aver that femininity can be an expression of a woman’s personal personality, and that it is “fun.” It is irrelevant, apparently, that femininity just happens to align precisely with the pornified desires, yucky fetishes, and vulgar business interests of the entire dudely culture of domination. Sadly, the novice blamer omits to consider this greater whole, and that in “choosing” femininity she is merely making conspicuous her compliance with dudely authori-tay.

New blamers cannot, however, be blamed for these unsophisticated views. The bogus feminine/masculine dichotomy is the ur-cornerstone of patriarchy. We’ve all been living it since the cradle. Rare is the Savage Death Islandist who springs from the womb with a fully-formed grasp of the pernicious nature of this most icky of patriarchal doctrines. We endure years, maybe decades, of brainwashing and oppression before managing to scrape the scales from our eyes.

Because, let’s face it; the truth about femininity is so repellent, so foul, so depraved, that we don’t want to know it. We’d rather believe the funfeminists when they insist that it’s empowerfulizing to be pink and girlie or stilettoey and porny. It’s so much easier to go with the flow and comfy up with the familiar old gender stereotypes than it is to come to grips with the fact that our woman-hating world order enforces femininity with a rigorous system of hollow, joyless rewards and uncompromising, murderous punishments, and that the enforcement of feminine behavior is a global humanitarian crisis.

Have you seen that commercial for Dove chocolates? No, of course you haven’t, because like all blamers you don’t own a television. Well, that commercial is a lulu. It’s got one of those confidential, just between you-and-me tones. We girls sure do some wacky things. We’re girls, we’re just so screwy. Like, we “pretend high heels are comfortable” and we wax our legs, and — silly us — we imagine that we can handle anything. But uh-oh! We can’t handle everything. But it’s OK. If we fuck up, it’s only because some things are just too hard (cut to a sexy leg with, uh-oh, a big hole in the stocking. Looks like someone couldn’t hack it in the cut-throat world of pantyhosiery! Tough break!). We’re just girls after all, but luckily we can offset the psychological damage of pantyhose failure by shoving a Dove chocolate down our craw. Femininity is really hard, so treat yourself to this cheap crap candy as a booby prize; being a screw-up is cute and we’re “only [sub] human.”

Does this icy stare make my butt look big?

Watch the commercial on YouTube, and then do that regendering thing I’m so fond of, where you imagine all the adorable femininity-women replaced by Steve McQueen or Laurence Fishburne or Franklin D Roosevelt or male dudes of similar gravitas. Can you see Fishburne going “whoopsie!” over a run in his pantyhose, and then having an orgasm over a crummy piece of mass-produced candy? I know, right? This tells you how fucking stupid femininity is; any member of the dominant class would look like a fucking idiot if he did it.

In a global humanitarian crisis, there’s nothing tackier than “choosing” to reinforce dangerous and degrading stereotypes for “fun.” There can be no real choice anyway, because nobody — and this means you — can freely opt out without consequences.

Here are some of the consequences likely to be suffered by women who try to opt out, or who perform femininity imperfectly (that is, all women):

sexism
misogyny
marriage
objectification
falling into the clutches of the Beauty Industrial Complex
self-mutilation
eating disorders
pornography
depression
infantilization
domestic violence
suicide
self-hatred
rape
marginalization
prostitution
being murdered

And most sucky of all:

no invitation — such as the ones sent to Laurence Fishburne, Steve McQueen, and Franklin D Roosevelt — to life’s rich pageant.

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Hole-in-pantyhose photo from this stupid TV commercial.

Laurence Fishburne photo from this website.

Spinster aunt has a cow, man

Longhorn

For our next riveting installment of Heartwarming Nature Crap, I present the heartwarming Texas longhorn heifer (or calf — what am I, some kinda cattle sexpert?) who lives across the creek from El Rancho Deluxe with a herd of much, much bigger longhorns. This longhorn herd greatly interests my dogs, to the extent that they — the dogs — will squeeze under barbed wire fences to encroach on their — the cattle’s — personal space to sniff their — the cattle’s — apparently irresistible cow-pies. Although longhorns are comparatively docile for organisms that weigh 2000 pounds and have sharp 6-foot prongs jutting out of their heads, an unpleasant outcome may eventually ensue, since my dumb dogs don’t know from adult cattle with giant horns who may or may not perceive them — the dogs — as a threat to their feckless offspring.

A spinster aunt and/or gentleman farmer’s animal husbandry worries never cease.

Texas longhorns are, like those bug-eyed Chihuahua dogs, primarily decorative animals. Some people butcher and eat them, and sometimes rockabilly types affix their — the cattle’s — horns to the grills of their — the rockabilly types’ — vintage Cadillacs, but mostly they — the cattle — just stand around in pastures as props in the personal narratives of dude ranchers, emitting methane. A hundred kilos per year per cow.

Fittingly, the Texas State Legislature has chosen the greenhouse-gas-producing longhorn as the Texas State Large Mammal (the Texas State Small Mammal is the nine-banded armadillo. This is fitting too, since between 5 and 10 percent of nine-banded armadillos have leprosy.)